After an Alabama woman, Carlee Russell, whose brief
disappearance this month drew national attention and prompted sprawling search
efforts across the state said through a lawyer on Monday that she had faked the
entire ordeal — including her abduction and her claim of seeing a toddler on
the side of a road, the question, we must ask ourselves .."What is a
lie?" (Source:NYTimes)
According to scholars, a lie is a statement or act designed
to deceive another person. The motivation for most lying is either to hurt the
one against, whom the lie is directed or to protect oneself, usually out of
FEAR OR PRIDE. Lying is emphatically condemned in the Bible (Ex:20:16) “You
shall not bear false witness against your neighbor. “
It is wrong because it is contrary to the nature of God,
according to Hebrew (6:18)
Why? Because “it is impossible for God to lie…”
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1. COMPULSIVE LIARS stories usually don't add up, which are
broken down into two
categories-of narcissistic liars and habitual liars.
Narcissistic liars' stories are far-fetched and downright unbelievable. On the
other hand, habitual liars constantly lie, practically all the time.
2. OCCASSIONAL LIARS
mix lies and truth to prevent hurting people but usually feel guilty
while admitting their lies and asking for forgiveness
3. SOCIOPATHIC LIARS are master manipulators, extremely
dangerous, who lack empathy and lie easily without worrying about how it
impacts others (Source:
4. But, what is PATHOLOGICAL LIAR?
The comedic world, hilariously, has attempted to tackle this
topic with Jim Carrey’s 1997 film LIAR-LIAR, which is about a conniving
attorney Fletcher Reede, whose dishonesty is destroying his family alongside
the iconic pathological liar character created by Jon Lovitz named Tommy
Flanagan on Saturday Night Live, who couldn’t stop embellishing the simple
matters of his life.
As we laugh at these comedic geniuses, a pathological liar
is typically an unstable person with a negative pattern of thinking, who has
become obsessed with lying in order to validate their own truth or perspective,
while trying to justify his or her struggle or inability to be sincere and
honest.
Usually, this person, psychologically, has a narcissistic
personality disorder. Meaning, he or she has an excessive need for admiration,
disregard for others' feelings, an inability to handle any criticism, and a
sense of entitlement, while trying to destroy your confidence, credibility with
others, and perspective of reality, reasoning, and overall mental health.
Many of them were raised this way, influenced by family
members, where overtimes, they become accustomed to it. Which, can be deemed as
a product of their environment. Others, however, simply love to do it. Because
they can get away with it.
But, how does one deal with a pathological liar?
First, don’t be surprised. Secondly, you must stand firm and
confront them. But, don’t argue with them or overreact to their lying.
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Why? Because, if you feed into their Shenanigans, it gives
them power. And, you don’t want to engage in power plays with a pathological
liar.
For, he loves to divert the conversation in all directions,
never addressing the real issue, sidestepping the situation, while trying to
trap you into psychological triangulation, where he/she will attempt to pull
other people into their web of deception.
It could be your family members, workers at your job,
friends on Facebook, and all other social platforms. They, in fact, will try to
influence all of these people by charming them, deceiving them, manipulating
them with intelligent conversations, witty jokes, late-night phone calls, or
envious e-mails while sneakily spreading their poisonous venom, toxic thoughts,
and lies in their attempts to assassinate your character.
The Book of Romans 3:13 explains it this way: The heart is
compared to a tomb, for buried in it is the seed of death. The throat reveals
the corruption inside, the spiritual decay. The lips are like the fangs of an
asp; they contain deadly poison.
All of this is happening, of course, without your knowledge,
or awareness. As a result, you may find yourself trying to figure out why
nobody wants to deal with you. Or, has turned against you all of a sudden.
As you can see, a pathological liar has the ability to make
your life a “living Hell.” They, however, live to play the victim. And, without
shame, will multiply your words, changing their meaning, in order to convince
others as well as yourself that you said something you didn’t- So, you may have
to play “STUPID” when dealing with them.
Especially, with a person, who thinks they can OUTSMART you.
Understand, you can’t give a pathological liar an inch. Because, they’ll turn
it into a mile, using it against you. For, a pathological individual has an
unstable personality. He/she, in fact, is cold and calculated plus very
vindictive and vicious. Their overall goal is to harm, destroy, get over, get
ahead, gain power, and gain authority over you.
For, "The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy" (John 10:10)
They will do whatever it takes to get to their goal. Or,
what they believe is necessary. But, during this process, when he or she
slithers like a snake, which was made reference to in Genesis (Genes-of Isis)
in Chapter 3: verses 1 when it states: Now the serpent was more subtle than any
beast of the field…..
With that said, when dealing with a pathological liar, you
must remain calm and emotionless by not reacting in the way they desire while
removing the shock value from your face and attitude.
Understanding, that they will never admit their GUILT,
BLAMESHIFT. AND COVER UP THEIR SINS. (bobbeethehater.blogspot.com)
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