BOBBEE BEE THE HATER: LOVED BY ALL BUT DIVORCED BY A FEW

SUN-DAY SCHOOL LESSON: LOVED BY ALL BUT DIVORCED BY A FEW by e.graham

According to Bible Dictionary, the divine ideal of marriage is clearly a long bond that unites husband and wife in a "one flesh" relationship (Gen 2:24; Matt 19:5) The marriage union, in fact, is considered a HOLY condition founded by  The Most High and is not to be dissolved at the will of human beings (Matt 19:6)

For this reason, the SEPARATION OF This BOND displeases  The Most High and poses a serious threat to the social order. We see evidence of this separation and singleness,  now, which, seemingly affects the African-American family, which are led, mostly, by women, in fatherless homes. (Is 3:12 )

The Book of Malachi 2:15-16 states like this: "...let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth. For the LORD God of Israel says He hates divorce..." Mal 2:15-16)

But, in America, viewed as modern-day Babylon, loves a messy divorce. The messier the merrier. For, she highlights them on shows like Divorce Court while celebrating and laughing at the infidelities, which destroys them on shows like Cheaters. (Prov 6:32)

The Law of Moses, however, allowed a man to divorce his wife when she found "no favor in his eyes." because he has found some uncleanness in her (Deu 24:1) In other words, the single reason for divorce was "immortality" or illicit sexual intercourse.

For, such union violates the sacred "oneness" intended by The Most High when he united Adam & Eve in the first marriage relationship (Gen 2:18-25) This, of course, is metaphysical language.

In analyzing all of this dysfunction, we all know that there are no perfect marriages. Regardless, of what Meghan Markle and Prince Harry,  pretend to display on television. Plus, if a relationship becomes toxic, where one feels "unloved, unheard, and unimportant" as well as manipulated, minimized, abused, or mistreated, it is definitely time for one to separate or walk away. (Source:T.Hill)

Especially, if there is no spiritual counseling or therapeutic intervention taking place to address the problems occurring within this sacred bond. (Prov 11:14)

With all this in mind, DE-TOXing from a poisonous relationship can still be hard because one may have developed a TRAUMA BOND with their mate along with a sense of FINANCIAL DEPENDENCY and CO-DEPENDENCY in the process of trying to make the marriage work.

Plus, one may also have developed a mentality of being in love, of being married, having a big fabulous wedding, or simply having a husband, whether the person is physically or verbally abusive or unfaithful.

This mentality combined with the psychological difficulties of learning the "new" roles attached with marriage can be very overwhelming.

Especially, for young brides, who find themselves after having a baby-trying to balance being a mother, lover, wife, and employer, while finding very little time for themselves.

As a result, many, during this transition, as a form of self-sabotage, find themselves feeling inadequate, and unhappy after dealing with bouts of postpartum depression, burnout, and unattractiveness.

Especially, with the additional of extra pounds gained during pregnancy. This, of course, is not an excuse for infidelity.

For, young men, who may be emotionally immature, may feel unloved, sexually frustrated, economically stressed out, and psychologically trapped,  which leads many of them to commit adultery during this time of new birth and challenges.(1 Tim 5:8)

But, when a relationship is toxic, all of these issues can intensify levels of dissatisfaction. Especially, when one is constantly being scapegoated, mistreated, disappointed, or abused while holding on to the FANASTY of marital bliss.

If the level of toxicity has reached this point, there shouldn't be any options, whether a person should seek separation.

Why? Because, at this point, one should be in FLIGHT or FIGHT mode. Meaning, they are either going to  HOLD ON and FIGHT for their marriage or relationship, FORGIVING ONE'S PAST transgression, ()Mark 11:25) overlooking the negativity, which may damage their mental health, while living in constant fear of having their heart continuously broken. (Ps 51:17)

Or, they will have to utilize their wisdom (Col 4:5-6) to FLEE  (Ps 143:9) without having GUILT, shame, self-doubt, depression, and anxiety, despite the negative judgment, rumors, and accusations,  regardless of the evidence of the situation from family members, who desire for them to stay together at all cost.

Why? Because, in some cases, WALKING AWAY from A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP will give back one's independence, freedom, happiness, and peace of mind, allowing them to BE BORN AGAIN.

For, the mind knows what the heart desires. (Ps: 37:4)

But, during this time of uncertainty, one can process their decision through journaling, blogging,  writing expressive poetry, meditating, and PRAYING (James 5:16) (bobbeethehater.blogspot.com)

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