BOBBEE BEE THE HATER: CYBERSTALKING ON TEMPTATION ISLAND

"lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil-Matt 6:13

SUN-DAY SCHOOL CLASS: CYBERSTALKING ON TEMPTATION ISLAND by e.graham

According to the Bible Dictionary, TEMPTATION is an enticement (Prov1:10) invitation to sin, with the implied promise of greater good to be derived from following the way of disobedience. In this sense The Most High does not tempt people, nor can He Himself be tempted (James 1:14) This, of course, is metaphysical language.

With that understanding, in this new tech- generation, temptation comes in many forms, which could lead a lot of people into becoming cyberstalkers, which can be based on anger (Eph 4:26-27) revenge (Rom 12:19,) or control. Especially, with the availability of 24-hour pornography on the Internet, where one can develop abnormal sexual fantasies with PornStars, who appear on their computers on an hourly or daily bases, enticing them in an effort to financial drain (Prov6:24-26) them by creating lustful habits (1 John 2:16) and "potential" obsessive and adulterous behaviors. (Matt16:4)

Consider the recent scandal surrounding NBA star Zion Williamson and Pornstar Moriah Mills,, which I discussed in a prior article entitled: WISDOM FOR  ZION, which deals with harassment, embarrassment, and humiliation of its victim.

This psychological delusion was highlighted in a horror-series, based on a real-life event entitled  SWARM about a young woman's obsession with a pop star that takes a dark turn, which leads her to become an obsessed serial killer.

This type of false reality or fake relationship, however, can also occur on FaceBook, Instagram, Twitter as well as  OnlyFan Pages, where due to search engines like Google, a person can become engulfed with searching, following, and tracking an individual, whom they have found interesting or attractive.

As innocent as this may seem, no one deserves to be stalked.  For, no one desires unwanted attention from a stranger. Especially, if they are not attracted to them and have no interest in meeting them in person. An unwanted ATTRACTION like this, if the person is not careful, can become FATAL.

Despite the negative consequences of being labeled a stalker, within a stalker's mind, however, his intense desire for the OBJECT of his affection overrides all of this.

Why? Because, he or she has grown to believe their "courageous" curiosity, "pain-stalking" persistence, and "cold-hearted" co-dependency is somehow romantic as well as attractive and stimulating to the person, whom he or she is pursuing, obsessing over, or still in love with. Especially, if this activity follows a mild break-up or short separation, after what to them, seemed to be a long-lasting loving relationship. So, in their thought process, there is nothing wrong with them with finding out, who their past girlfriend is dating now, or married to. Plus, "What's so strange about befriending all their friends on FaceBook or contacting their husband?" Yes, this is an "attraction, which can turn FATAL"

With that example, most stalkers have no intention to harm or scare others. However, over time, unfortunately, they can begin to look- like predators due to their constant attempts to contact someone. Especially, if they don't really know them and appear to be developing an obsession.

This may occur with constant LOVE BOMBING, which comes with an unlimited amount of compliments, LIKES, flattery (Prov 29:5,) admiration, or comments under one's photographs on FaceBook, as well as leaving numerous (inappropriate) messages in their Inbox, along with commenting on all of their posts, following them on Twitter and repeating DMing them on Instagram, while waiting on a reply. (Prov 26:24-28)

This form of cyberstalking, however, can intensify. Especially, when the person, who may have a narcissistic personality, after being blocked or told no, makes matters worst, by practicing deception, Gal( 6:7) developing "new names," (Prov 22:1) pretending to be someone else, hiding in disguise (2 Cor 11:14) with faking pictures, different photos, and made-up profiles in order to gain access to the person they have become obsessed with, who, over time, has become emotionally exhausted by their unwanted harassment.

Usually, the cause of this irrational behavior is a result of spiritual emptiness, loneliness from a relationship gone bad, divorce, or death of a loved one along with emotional neediness, abandonment issues, and attachment disorders, probably, stemming from unresolved trauma in their childhood, which may be due to having uncaring and unloving parents.

Unfortunately, if this person doesn't unplug himself from social

media soon and seek psychological help for his unaddressed issues of trauma and rejection, he will become more OBSESSIVE and impulsive, until he or she starts to develop DARKER thoughts known as RUMINATION, which could lead them to STALK the person offline, appearing at their job, driving by their house,  placing a tracker on their vehicles, rape, (Gen 35:1-14)kidnapping, and even, murder.(Matt5:21-22)

This unstable activity of denial and delusion could ruin one's reputation, and result in job loss, arrest, jail-time, and a "potential" criminal record. (bobbeethehater.blogspot.com)

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BOBBEE BEE THE HATER: LYING ABOUT A LIAR

 LYING ABOUT A LIAR by e.graham

After an Alabama woman, Carlee Russell, whose brief disappearance this month drew national attention and prompted sprawling search efforts across the state said through a lawyer on Monday that she had faked the entire ordeal — including her abduction and her claim of seeing a toddler on the side of a road, the question, we must ask ourselves .."What is a lie?" (Source:NYTimes)

According to scholars, a lie is a statement or act designed to deceive another person. The motivation for most lying is either to hurt the one against, whom the lie is directed or to protect oneself, usually out of FEAR OR PRIDE. Lying is emphatically condemned in the Bible (Ex:20:16) “You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor. “

It is wrong because it is contrary to the nature of God, according to Hebrew (6:18)

Why? Because “it is impossible for God to lie…”

There, however, are different kinds of liars, which include compulsive liars, occasional liars, who tell "little white" lies, usually meaningless and do no harm, sociopathic liars, and pathological liars.

1. COMPULSIVE LIARS stories usually don't add up, which are broken down into two

categories-of narcissistic liars and habitual liars. Narcissistic liars' stories are far-fetched and downright unbelievable. On the other hand, habitual liars constantly lie, practically all the time.

2. OCCASSIONAL LIARS  mix lies and truth to prevent hurting people but usually feel guilty while admitting their lies and asking for forgiveness

3. SOCIOPATHIC LIARS are master manipulators, extremely dangerous, who lack empathy and lie easily without worrying about how it impacts others (Source:

4. But, what is PATHOLOGICAL LIAR?

The comedic world, hilariously, has attempted to tackle this topic with Jim Carrey’s 1997 film LIAR-LIAR, which is about a conniving attorney Fletcher Reede, whose dishonesty is destroying his family alongside the iconic pathological liar character created by Jon Lovitz named Tommy Flanagan on Saturday Night Live, who couldn’t stop embellishing the simple matters of his life.

As we laugh at these comedic geniuses, a pathological liar is typically an unstable person with a negative pattern of thinking, who has become obsessed with lying in order to validate their own truth or perspective, while trying to justify his or her struggle or inability to be sincere and honest.

Usually, this person, psychologically, has a narcissistic personality disorder. Meaning, he or she has an excessive need for admiration, disregard for others' feelings, an inability to handle any criticism, and a sense of entitlement, while trying to destroy your confidence, credibility with others, and perspective of reality, reasoning, and overall mental health.

Many of them were raised this way, influenced by family members, where overtimes, they become accustomed to it. Which, can be deemed as a product of their environment. Others, however, simply love to do it. Because they can get away with it.

But, how does one deal with a pathological liar?

First, don’t be surprised. Secondly, you must stand firm and confront them. But, don’t argue with them or overreact to their lying.

Why? Because, if you feed into their Shenanigans, it gives them power. And, you don’t want to engage in power plays with a pathological liar.

For, he loves to divert the conversation in all directions, never addressing the real issue, sidestepping the situation, while trying to trap you into psychological triangulation, where he/she will attempt to pull other people into their web of deception.

It could be your family members, workers at your job, friends on Facebook, and all other social platforms. They, in fact, will try to influence all of these people by charming them, deceiving them, manipulating them with intelligent conversations, witty jokes, late-night phone calls, or envious e-mails while sneakily spreading their poisonous venom, toxic thoughts, and lies in their attempts to assassinate your character.

The Book of Romans 3:13 explains it this way: The heart is compared to a tomb, for buried in it is the seed of death. The throat reveals the corruption inside, the spiritual decay. The lips are like the fangs of an asp; they contain deadly poison.

All of this is happening, of course, without your knowledge, or awareness. As a result, you may find yourself trying to figure out why nobody wants to deal with you. Or, has turned against you all of a sudden.

As you can see, a pathological liar has the ability to make your life a “living Hell.” They, however, live to play the victim. And, without shame, will multiply your words, changing their meaning, in order to convince others as well as yourself that you said something you didn’t- So, you may have to play “STUPID” when dealing with them.

Especially, with a person, who thinks they can OUTSMART you. Understand, you can’t give a pathological liar an inch. Because, they’ll turn it into a mile, using it against you. For, a pathological individual has an unstable personality. He/she, in fact, is cold and calculated plus very vindictive and vicious. Their overall goal is to harm, destroy, get over, get ahead, gain power, and gain authority over you.

For, "The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy" (John 10:10)

They will do whatever it takes to get to their goal. Or, what they believe is necessary. But, during this process, when he or she slithers like a snake, which was made reference to in Genesis (Genes-of Isis) in Chapter 3: verses 1 when it states: Now the serpent was more subtle than any beast of the field…..

With that said, when dealing with a pathological liar, you must remain calm and emotionless by not reacting in the way they desire while removing the shock value from your face and attitude.

Understanding, that they will never admit their GUILT, BLAMESHIFT. AND COVER UP THEIR SINS. (bobbeethehater.blogspot.com)

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BOBBEE BEE THE HATER: WISDOM FOR ZION

 "Heav'n has no Rage, like Love to Hatred turn'd, Nor Hell a Fury, like a Woman scorn'd."

MON-DAY MORNING MEDITATION: WISDOM FOR  ZION by e.graham

According to The Book of Proverbs, which is one of the five “wisdom books” of the Bible, with the other four being Job, Psalms, Ecclesiastes, and Song of Solomon states in Chapter 18 verses 21-22 that “Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof. Plus, “ Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.”

This scripture, once again has proven itself to be true. Especially, after young NBA basketball star Zion Williamson got caught in a “love triangle,” when his apparent girlfriend, Ahkeema, announced they are expecting a baby girl — posting a gender reveal video on social media. This, however, led to an avalanche of Twits and Instagram posts from a former disgruntled “girlfriend.”

But, last week, things got serious, when the 23-year-old Pelicans star, according to the NYPost, posted a snippet from the late- Notorious B.I.G. song’s “Suicidal Thoughts”  on his  Instagram Story with the lyrics, “I can’t believe suicide’s on my f mind, I wanna leave” 

This, of course, sparked some online concerns about Williamson’s well-being.  Especially, with his association with “former” adult film star Moriah Mills, who claimed in June that she had been having sexual relations with the No. 1 overall NBA Draft pick in  2019  with New Orleans, who signed a five-year rookie max extension with the Pelicans in July 2022 worth up to $213 million.

 

Oddly, now, Mills is alleging to have been physically abused by Williamson, who stands 6’6 and over 284 lbs, while  “sexually extorting” the young baller for $62,000.

“He is a woman beater and the NBA needs to know this,” Moriah said through tears. “I literally did not want to come to this because I know he has so many endorsements. But Zion Williamson is a woman beater,” she cried.

“The reason he was paying me off is so I won’t come to the world and tell everybody,” Moriah said.

All of this comes after Mills posted herself getting Zion’s name tattooed on her face while threatening to reveal sex tapes with the former Duke basketball, who was paying her $200,000 a month for “sexual favors” allegedly at the time.

With all of this drama surrounding Zion and his fetish for Porn Stars, remember, the Book of Proverbs forewarned us in Chapter  5:3-10 which stated: Proverbs 5:3-14

The lips of a seductive woman are oh so sweet, her soft words are oh so smooth. But it won't be long before she's gravel in your mouth, a pain in your gut, a wound in your heart.

She's dancing down the primrose path to Death; she's headed straight for Hell and taking you with her. She hasn't a clue about Real Life, about who she is or where she's going. So, my friend, listen closely; don't treat my words casually.

Keep your distance from such a woman; absolutely stay out of her neighborhood. You don't want to squander your wonderful life, to waste your precious life among the hardhearted.

Why should you allow strangers to take advantage of you? Why be exploited by those who care nothing for you? You don't want to end your life full of regrets, nothing but sin and bones, Saying, "Oh, why didn't I do what they told me? Why did I reject a disciplined life? Why didn't I listen to my mentors, or take my teachers seriously? My life is ruined! I haven't one blessed thing to show for my life!" Never Take Love for Granted.

With that said, during his time of trouble and unrest, Williamson,  must remember Isaiah 1:27, which states “Zion shall be redeemed with judgment…For the LORD hath chosen Zion Gal4:26 as inspiration(bobbeethehater.blogspot.com)

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BOBBEE BEE THE HATER: LOVED BY ALL BUT DIVORCED BY A FEW

SUN-DAY SCHOOL LESSON: LOVED BY ALL BUT DIVORCED BY A FEW by e.graham

According to Bible Dictionary, the divine ideal of marriage is clearly a long bond that unites husband and wife in a "one flesh" relationship (Gen 2:24; Matt 19:5) The marriage union, in fact, is considered a HOLY condition founded by  The Most High and is not to be dissolved at the will of human beings (Matt 19:6)

For this reason, the SEPARATION OF This BOND displeases  The Most High and poses a serious threat to the social order. We see evidence of this separation and singleness,  now, which, seemingly affects the African-American family, which are led, mostly, by women, in fatherless homes. (Is 3:12 )

The Book of Malachi 2:15-16 states like this: "...let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth. For the LORD God of Israel says He hates divorce..." Mal 2:15-16)

But, in America, viewed as modern-day Babylon, loves a messy divorce. The messier the merrier. For, she highlights them on shows like Divorce Court while celebrating and laughing at the infidelities, which destroys them on shows like Cheaters. (Prov 6:32)

The Law of Moses, however, allowed a man to divorce his wife when she found "no favor in his eyes." because he has found some uncleanness in her (Deu 24:1) In other words, the single reason for divorce was "immortality" or illicit sexual intercourse.

For, such union violates the sacred "oneness" intended by The Most High when he united Adam & Eve in the first marriage relationship (Gen 2:18-25) This, of course, is metaphysical language.

In analyzing all of this dysfunction, we all know that there are no perfect marriages. Regardless, of what Meghan Markle and Prince Harry,  pretend to display on television. Plus, if a relationship becomes toxic, where one feels "unloved, unheard, and unimportant" as well as manipulated, minimized, abused, or mistreated, it is definitely time for one to separate or walk away. (Source:T.Hill)

Especially, if there is no spiritual counseling or therapeutic intervention taking place to address the problems occurring within this sacred bond. (Prov 11:14)

With all this in mind, DE-TOXing from a poisonous relationship can still be hard because one may have developed a TRAUMA BOND with their mate along with a sense of FINANCIAL DEPENDENCY and CO-DEPENDENCY in the process of trying to make the marriage work.

Plus, one may also have developed a mentality of being in love, of being married, having a big fabulous wedding, or simply having a husband, whether the person is physically or verbally abusive or unfaithful.

This mentality combined with the psychological difficulties of learning the "new" roles attached with marriage can be very overwhelming.

Especially, for young brides, who find themselves after having a baby-trying to balance being a mother, lover, wife, and employer, while finding very little time for themselves.

As a result, many, during this transition, as a form of self-sabotage, find themselves feeling inadequate, and unhappy after dealing with bouts of postpartum depression, burnout, and unattractiveness.

Especially, with the additional of extra pounds gained during pregnancy. This, of course, is not an excuse for infidelity.

For, young men, who may be emotionally immature, may feel unloved, sexually frustrated, economically stressed out, and psychologically trapped,  which leads many of them to commit adultery during this time of new birth and challenges.(1 Tim 5:8)

But, when a relationship is toxic, all of these issues can intensify levels of dissatisfaction. Especially, when one is constantly being scapegoated, mistreated, disappointed, or abused while holding on to the FANASTY of marital bliss.

If the level of toxicity has reached this point, there shouldn't be any options, whether a person should seek separation.

Why? Because, at this point, one should be in FLIGHT or FIGHT mode. Meaning, they are either going to  HOLD ON and FIGHT for their marriage or relationship, FORGIVING ONE'S PAST transgression, ()Mark 11:25) overlooking the negativity, which may damage their mental health, while living in constant fear of having their heart continuously broken. (Ps 51:17)

Or, they will have to utilize their wisdom (Col 4:5-6) to FLEE  (Ps 143:9) without having GUILT, shame, self-doubt, depression, and anxiety, despite the negative judgment, rumors, and accusations,  regardless of the evidence of the situation from family members, who desire for them to stay together at all cost.

Why? Because, in some cases, WALKING AWAY from A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP will give back one's independence, freedom, happiness, and peace of mind, allowing them to BE BORN AGAIN.

For, the mind knows what the heart desires. (Ps: 37:4)

But, during this time of uncertainty, one can process their decision through journaling, blogging,  writing expressive poetry, meditating, and PRAYING (James 5:16) (bobbeethehater.blogspot.com)

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BOBBEE BEE "THE HATER": THIN LINE BETWEEN LOVE & HATE

SUN-DAY SCHOOL CLASS: THIN LINE BETWEEN LOVE & HATE by e.graham

The question most people ask is "What do you want from me? Especially, if they are being emotionally blackmailed.

So, today, we will be discussing EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL, which, usually, occurs when a narcissistic family member or mate, uses a form of intimidation with bouts of uncontrollable bursts of anger along with strict guidelines and directions that come with physical and verbal abuse in order to manipulate, belittle, control, guilt-trap, shame, or high-jack one's emotions with no regard for their psychological well-being or mental health by placing them into a permanent insubordinate position-OF LESS THAN.

This emotional blackmailing can take place during moments of infidelity, where secrets can be held against mates, as a form of romantic ransom. In the process of divorce or separation, where one can WEAPONIZE one's desire to leave a toxic relationship with the use of menacing body language, evil stares, and devilish details of revenge. Which, in, the worst-case scenario, involves using a child as a shield, where he or she is abused, neglected, abandoned, or physically harmed.

This form of intimidation also can occur in gender wars, where questions of masculinity or belief of maleness, with labels of being the "head of the household," can come with physical, verbal, sexual, and, even, religious abuse, which has hints of occultism, where one fears to leave, due to TRAUMA BONDING.

With this understanding, an emotional blackmailer, or whitemailer, to be politically correct,  can be a father, mother, brother, sister, or any other family member.

For, this person desires to control one's freedom, independence, and ability to think while suffocating one's soul, penetrating one's heart, and entrapping one's emotions in their EVIL attempt to prove all of their wrongs. But, according, to 1 Corinthians 13:5 "Love records no wrongs or does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.""

However, in the extreme case of emotional blackmail, wrongs are recorded, and tactics such as A. TRAUMA BONDING, B. COERCIVE

POWER, C. RE-ENACTMENTS, and D. FALSE COALITIONS are tools in which this objective can be achieved (Source:T.Hall)

Coercive Power is a type of power that gets you to comply with something you don’t want to do through the use of force or punishment. It is a type of authoritarian power used to prevent insubordination; for example, your boss threatens to fire you if you don’t complete a project on time. (Source:MasterClass)

In most situations, an individual using this tactic can be a master manipulator, or triangulator, while playing the role of the victim, by using persuasive language, dis-information, gossip, half-truths, outright lies, or their version of the truth in order to undercut and devalue their family members or their mates in an attempt to get others to view them through their point of view.

This can be achieved by surprising e-mails, Facebook inboxs, or mysterious phone calls, out of nowhere, which may come with statements like: "I don't know, who I have married...." "He did this, that, and the third." Unfortunately, these conversations are not given to resolve problems, however. They are conducted in order to stir up more controversy and pass more judgment and criticism while creating MOBB-TIES, fake family coalitions, and false friendships as well as a sense of sympathy.

Next is RE-ENACTMENT, which is the action of performing a new version of an old event, usually with a theatrical performance. In the case of relationships, an individual, usually, with a difficult upbringing and dysfunctional family ties, without any therapy to deal with their past traumatic experiences, utilizes their past relationships, which may have been riddled with bullying, physical and verbal abuse, violent acts, drug abuse, alcoholism and manipulations as an excuse to justify their present bad behavior in their current relationship. Especially, when arguments and disagreements occur. Which, commonly, comes with comments like: You are acting just like my past boyfriend. You are acting just like my last husband. Or, you are acting like my father. He beat me. My husband beat me and you want to beat me too.

This was brilliantly yet hilariously highlighted in the "classic" film (1996) Thin Line Between Love & Hate starring comedian Martin Lawerence, Lynn Whitfield Bobby Brown, and Regina King, and tragically portrayed in FATAL ATTRACTION starring Michael Douglas and Glen Close.  Unfortunately, this is also a part of emotional whitemail.

Why? Because, this person loves drama and plays a dramatic role by crying hysterically, becoming physical in order to get one to overreact through emotional outbursts or striking out in frustration, which could lead to authorities being called, and legal actions being taken, resulting in restraining orders, arrests, criminal records, lost of employment, and court cases. (bobbeethehater.blogspot.com)

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BOBBEE BEE THE HATER: THE FOUR-HEADED MONSTER OF EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL (ZION WILLIAMSON)

 "Love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking"- 1 Cor 13:4-5

SUN-DAY SCHOOL CLASS: THE FOUR-HEADED MONSTER OF EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL by e.graham

According to Susan Forward, PhD's book Emotional Blackmail: When People In Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt To Manipulate, there are four faces to emotional blackmail, which are 1) The Punisher, 2. The Self-Punisher 3. The Sufferer and 4.) The Tantalizer, utilizes demands, pressure, threats, negative judgments, compliance, and repetition to obtain their objectives.

A.) The PUNISHER is an individual, who thinks they are superior and loves to correct others. This is their power trip. In order to get what they want, they will express anger, rage, and blind fury along with dark threats that come with severe consequences. Their underline philosophy is "My way or the highway.." So, they may withhold money and finances along with sex or use sex as a punishment and a form of control. They may also emotionally cut you off or abandon (others) hoping it will cause you to suffer, crumble and fall in the midst of a dispute. Comments like "If you divorce me, you'll never see your children." are a part of their make-up.

B.) THE SELF-PUNISHER is, usually, associated with high drama along with attachment and abandonment issues, who often throw temper tantrums, vowing to do something to ruin their lives, or hurt themselves; as a means to manipulate, control or terrorize others into submission in order to obtain love. This may be accomplished by physical injuries, overdrinking, abusing drugs, quitting jobs, dropping out of school, and, in the worse case,  attempting suicide or threats of having an abortion in order to make one feel guilty. Statements such as: "I'll kill myself if you leave me..." is often used by a self-punisher

C.) THE SUFFERER is often complaining about something, always depressed, in a teary-eyed position, feeling miserable, sick, unhappy with life, or preoccupied with how awful thing are....But, when asked, "What's wrong!" They'll say "Nothing." Why? Because they want you to read their minds and figure out their problems. But, they love sharing the excoriating details about their relationship with everyone else including strangers. On the surface, these individuals look weak, but they are tyrants and can be terrorists in their own homes by constantly triangulating, creating the victim-rescuer-caretaker motif

D.) TANTALIZER is the most subtle or clever of the beast. Plus, the most seductive, highlighted in the (1997) movie The Devil's Advocate starring Al Pacino and Keanu Reeves. They will utilize love, money, and career advancement to control and manipulate others as a proverbial carrot, which can never be obtained like eternal life offered by the serpent in the Garden of Eden in Genesis 3:1“Now the serpent was more subtle than any beast of the field which the LORD God had made. And he said unto the woman, Yea, hath God said, Ye shall not eat of every tree of the garden?” (bobbeethehater.blogspot.com)

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