BOBBEE BEE: MERCIFULLY KNEELING IN A MOMENT OF CRISIS: THE TRAIL OF DEREK CHAUVIN IN THE DEATH OF GEORGE FLOYD

 “For the Lord your God is gracious and merciful, and will not turn away his face from you, if ye return unto him.”2 Chronicles 30:9

MERCIFULLY KNEELING IN A MOMENT OF CRISIS: THE TRAIL OF DEREK CHAUVIN by e.graham

According to the Book of Daniel (9:9) The Most High shows compassion toward those who have broken His law. But, unfortunately, for our beloved brother George Floyd, when four Minnesota police officers arrested him and placed him in handcuffs, they showed him NO MERCY.

Even, when he begged and pleaded for just a little bit MERCY, while crying for his deceased mother, as one applied pressure on his neck from his knee, two others placed their weight across his back, blocking the oxygen to his lungs from traveling to his brain, for 8 minutes and 46 seconds until he laid breathless in the street-murdered in broad daylight. They showed him NO MERCY.

SEE, historically, on the plantations of America, sometimes, the overseer or officer would take one of the strongest “slaves” or the biggest “bucks” WITH NO MERCY, and tight ropes around their limbs to four horses, racing them in four different directions, ripping them apart, killing them in broad daylight for the other slaves to witness in order to inflict FEAR in them, as well as, their future generations, who may have thoughts or ideas of rebelling against their POWER and AUTHORITY.

While many believe this is an old school tactic, no longer practiced in America, George Floyd, who stood over 6 feet tall and weighed about 230lbs faced the same type of torture at the hands of the police and was murdered to inflict FEAR into the masses, as people "fearfully" stood and watched.

But, according to the Book of Psalm Chapter 27, it states: The Lord is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear?

Symbolically, Colin Kaepernick, different yet the same, while taking a knee during the National Anthem, in order to bring awareness to the same form of police brutality that killed Floyd, was “psychological lynched” or choked out by a segment of the American population, the NFL, the “OWNERS” and members of the head coaching staffs, who refused to hire him, while “white-balling” him out the league in order to show the "ballers" if you think about stepping out of line, you will face the same financial "Castration" as Kaepernick, who had enough "INTESTINAL FORTITUDE" to take stand against INJUSTICE.

Let’s not forget, the President referred to those taking a knee as “SONS OF BITCHES” Meaning, with 20/20 hindsight, that Trump was calling the players’ “Black Mothers,” like the one, which Greg Floyd cried out for in the moment of his distress, NOTHING BUT A BUNCH OF BITCHES.

See, before you CAN MURDER someone, you have to de-humanize them, making them less than a human or less than a dog. This is why, according to court reports, after Ahmaud Aubrey was murder in cold blood in Brunswick, Georgia, his killer stood over his body and called him a Nigger.

And, without a shadow of a doubt, this was done in order to INFLICT FEAR, in other Black people, who may have thoughts of rebelling against their POWER and AUTHORITY. No different than when Trump tweeted- “when the looting starts; the shooting starts” or “releasing the dogs, which triggers images from the early ’60s during segregation, when dogs were used to bite the flesh of peaceful protesters. Even, his usage of the word “THUGS,” which is RED MEAT for his base, is a word associated for Black males, whether they are young Black men protesting in the street or million-dollar athletes.

So, despite a league being 70% Black, with all of their muscles, weightlifting, locker-room brawls, expensive homes, fancy cars, aggressive attitudes, the majority of the players, became a church of cowards, and submitted to the bottom-line and put their toes on the lines during the singing of the National Anthem.

AND, just like THE WORLD stood back and watched while SHOWING NO MERCY for Colin Kaepernick, those four officers showed NO MERCY for George Floyd, as he took his last breath.

But, I guarantee that these same officers, Derek Chauvin, Thomas Lane, Tou Thao, and J Alexander Kueng, who were involved in the death of George Floyd, will beg for MERCY from the judge as well as the JURY when, or if, they are convicted for their crimes.

The question still remains, however. If Freedom is unfamiliar to souls on stolen land, will the American Justice System hear their cries for Mercy?

Guilty or Not Guilty.
The World waits as the flames continue to burn.

Have mercy upon me, O God (Psalm 51:1-2) (To be continued) (bobbeethehater.blogspot.com) 

BOBBEE BEE: MONDAY MORNING MEDITATION: JOY TO THE WORLD

MONDAY MORNING MEDITATION: JOY  TO THE WORLD by e.graham

 Let me begin today's MONDAY MEDITATION, by defining the Bible as a book of mythical history mixed philosophical myth, veiled in allegory, with poetic decoration, illustrated symbolism, enriched with a system of morality, and an astrological connection.

With that said, what is the Jubilee?

The Jubilee, for the Bible believers and the Pastors, is the 50th year after 7 cycles, which is when Israelites were obligated to observe this year, once they entered the Promise Land, where instructions about property and slavery took effect (Lev 25:8-55.)

The 7 cycles are associated with
Daniel's vision of the Israelites' 490-year captivity in Babylon and their restoration to GLORY, which is equivalent to the number of times Jesus told Peter, who asked him "Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? As many as seven times? 

Oddly, the Son of Man stated, according to the Book of Matthew (18:21, 22 )"I do not say to you seven times, but seventy times seven," which is (70 X 7=490) (This, of course, as a deeper meaning for the true mathematicians.)

The word "jubilee, in fact, comes from a Hebrew term that means to be "jubilant." The word is related to the Hebrew word for ram's horn or trumpet. The Jubilee year was launched with a blast from a RAM's horn on the Day of Atonement, signifying a call to JOY, LIBERATION, and the beginning of a year for JUSTICE and MERCY, which is why people blow those little horns during the so-called New Year's celebration in January.

Yes, the 50th year was a special year, much like the Sabbatical Year, to the Isis-RA-el-lights to proclaim LIBERTY throughout all the land (Lev 25:10,) which is inscribed on the LIBERTY BELL in Philadelphia "the City of Brotherly Love...."

This is, of course, has a deeper esoteric meaning and a numerical significance. Because, the #50 can be reduced to the number five, which has Gang connection/ better known as Street Organization, and represents the 5 senses of Man (see, hear, smell, taste and feeling) along with the (5) planets, Mars is the only one to shine in the evening sky, Mercury, Jupiter and Saturn all, which appear in the EAST BEFORE THE SUNRISE and Venus – the brightest planet –the "Bright a Morning Star"(Rev 22:16,)which is known astrological as the Eastern Star, Easter, or Ishtar, "The Queen of Heaven,"-that appears in the sky with a hidden Pentagon in the center.

This 5-pointed STAR is also seen as Isis/NUN, a woman or religious, typically living under vows of poverty, chastity, and obedience in the enclosure of a monastery in Roman Catholicism. The term NUN pronounced (Noon,) is also the oldest of the ancient Egyptian gods and father of RA, the sun god, meaning the "primeval waters,” which is why Christ's symbol, within Christianity, is  a fish. Plus, within the biblical text, Nun is the father of Joshua, which is another name for Jesus.(Num11:28-30).

Amazingly, NUN is also the 14th letter in the Hebrew alphabet, which has a numerical value is 50. Plus, the (5th letter,) which is He, is known as the "breath of life." Hence, the cartoon character HE-man.

But, it gets deeper. Because this is a universal teaching. For, the same 5-pointed Star is reflected in the Five Pillars of Islam, which are.

.Profession of Faith (shahada). The belief that "There is no god but God, and Muhammad is the Messenger of God" is central to Islam. ..

• Prayer (salat). ...
• Alms (zakat). ...
• Fasting (sawm). ...
• Pilgrimage (hajj).

Which, leads us DIRECTLY to the 5% Nation of Islam or 5-Percenters, whose emblem is actually a compass, whether they know it or not......giving to GIVE direction to a "TRAVELING MAN." 

For, "He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name's sake." (Psalms 23:3)

Why? Because, the 5%ers visualize the 5-pointed star to be a representation that the BLACK MAN is (GOD,) which symbolic was captured in a clever acronym of A.rm L.eg L.eg A.rm H.ead, the name of (God) in the Arabic language known as ALLAH, the Law Giver, which in the ancient TAROT, the number (5) is associated with the archetype of the Pope, The Pontiff, The High Priest or a person, who passed on his or her knowledge and understanding to a new generation.

This is beautifully connected to the Pentateuch, a term meaning "five-volume," which refers to the first five books of the Old Testament, traditionally known as the Book of Law or the TORAH, meaning teaching or doctrine-that is generally divided into Genesis, Exodus, Deuteronomy, and Numbers.

The Day of Jubilee, in fact, was established to prevent a permanent economic class by giving everyone a start over, a Day of Renewal, economically and socially, while remaining us  that the Most High wants people to be FREE (Luke 4:18-19) and desires for JUSTICES to rule over the earth in order to eliminate permanent bondage and debt.

Remember, scripturally, slavery is debt. So, during this year, a man who was bound to another as a slave was set free and returned to his own family. This is expressed in Deuteronomy 15:1-5, which is subtitled as The Year of Debt Release, which states: At the end of every seven years you must declare a cancellation of debts.[a]  This is the nature of the cancellation: Every creditor must remit what he has loaned to another person;[b] he must not force payment from his fellow Israelite,[c] for it is to be recognized as “the Lord’s cancellation of debts.”  You may exact payment from a foreigner, but whatever your fellow Israelite[d] owes you, you must remit. However, there should not be any poor among you, for the Lord[e] will surely bless[f] you in the land that he[g] is giving you as an inheritance,[h]  if you carefully obey[i] him[j] by keeping[k] all these commandments 

To add on to all this, the #50 appears on one of the three major Jewish festivals, the other two are Passover and Feast of Tabernacles, which feel on the 50th day after the Sabbath of the Passover of the Sun, that include servants, sons and daughters, Levites, the fatherless, the widows, and strangers, known as the PENTECOST, (a Greek word, meaning "fifty." 

This  observance of the PENTECOST, by early Christian believers, who gathered in Jerusalem, alleged experienced an outpouring of God's Holy Spirit, in (Hebrew: רוח הקודש‎, known as theruach ha-kodesh) the divine force over the universe( of (YHWH) in a miraculous way (Act 2:1-4)

OH, WHAT A JOYOUS EXPERIENCE!!!

For, just like the psalmist rejoices over God's righteousness (71:14-16,) SALVATION (21:1; 71:23,) MERCY (31:7,) CREATION (148:5,) WORD (119;14, 162) and FAITHFULNESS (33:1-6.)

This type of Joy is possible, even in the mist of sorrow, for (Psalm 30:5) states: "weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.”

BOBBEE BEE: (WAP) THE POLITICS OF THE BLACK FEMALE BODY

THE POLITICS OF THE BLACK FEMALE BODY by e.graham

As we slowly “moonwalked” through the #MeToo Movement, we, somehow, find ourselves “bootyshaking” in another debate about the politics of the Black female body with the release of former exotic dancer Cardi B and Megan Thee Stallion’s new video and song WAP, which contains the sample lyrics by Baltimore DJ Frank Ski’s famous House record “There are some hoes in this house"

The WAP video along with its “raunchy” lyrics has many ultra-conservative thinkers, grounded in Catholicism, where, historically from the Churches' perspective--- (women could ONLY be viewed as a (Mother or a Whore) have questioned whether Black female sexuality is an expression of freedom, empowerment---Or, simply a product of Jewish Hollywood propaganda and exploitation within the confinement of what is known as the entertainment industry, which looks more and more like the pornography industry. Especially, in the midst of police terrorism, where the Black female body has been murdered without persecution, conviction or justice.

The artist Meghan Thee Stallion, who was recently shot by rapper Tori Lanz, made a poor attempt to address this issue during her Saturday Night Live Performance on Oct. 3 2020, while bouncing her “booty,” which is a slang term for valuable stolen goods during war, while playing the voice of Malcolm X in the background with the words "The most disrespected person in America is the black woman. The most unprotected person in America is the black woman. The most neglected person in America is the Black woman” before throwing her fist in the air, as a sign of Black Power.

Despite, what many considered, an ill-attempt by Stallion to shed light on a dark subject, the Black female body, still is considered simply an object of pleasure,  a plastic Barbie doll of shakable body parts-just ass and titties, with the help of rappers like Lil Kim and Nicki Minaj, the fashion industry, and the strip-club culture, where they are often demonized, whether moving or not moving, clothed or unclothed, educated or uneducated, viewed and promoted as some sexually promiscuous type of sex kitten, circus freak, or white man fantasy.

In understanding this, however, one must add to the equation that during the time of slavery, Reconstruction, the Jim Crow South, segregation,  up to the modern-day time, the Black female has never truly controlled her own body in the creation and shaping of America, which sadly is used as a political tool, within the White Feminist movement, along with cases addressing affirmative action, voters rights, abortion, as well as other pertinent issues every election cycle.

However, historically, many, seem to have forgotten THAT the Black Female Body was used as a breeder on plantations and sex farms. Her breast, oftentimes, used to nourish the slave-master's children. Her body was sold, stolen, raped, mutated, branded, lynched, tortured in the cotton fields, where she was seen less than human, demonized, called a witch; no different than Donald Trump and his right-wing supporters, who had without shame called Senator Kamila Harris, a “ho and a monster,” reducing her to simply a PROSTITUTE.

Cardi B and Megan Thee Stallion, unfortunately, continued the distasteful display of "whoredom" (Lev:19:29) and was rewarded by it during their "raunchy" performance during the 63rd Annual GRAMMY Awards at Los Angeles Convention Center in Los Angeles  on March 14, 2021, which the (FCC) Federal Communications Commission received over 80 complaints about the provocative show given by the two the rappers, where they twerked on a giant prop bed, wearing skimpy outfits while performing lesbian acts on stage as if they were at a strip club.

With that stated, we, must, now, address this issue from a biblical standpoint, from a spiritual nature, by studying the Book of Hosea from an esoteric perspective, where God commands one of His prophets to marry a whore, which symbolically represents the Black Woman, The Daughters of Zion, Israel, who due to her adulteries, eventually ends up becoming the slave or concubine of another man. (Hosea1:2-3)

“Find a whore and marry her. Make this whore the mother of your children. And here’s why: The whole country has become a whorehouse, unfaithful to me, God…” (Remember, That Record. There Some Hoes in the House.”

See, the biblical character, known as the prophet Hosea,  a member of the upper class, a man of deep compassion, committed to the Most High, prophesizing for 40 years, identifies himself as “the son of Beeri,”  whose name, “surprisingly, is a shortened form of JESHUA and JESUS, meaning “ salivation or deliverance,” who was commanded by the Most High to marry a PROSTITUTE named GOMER, which, in one content, refers to the Cimmerians, who dwelt in what is now southern Russia, beyond the “Caucus Mountains,” and to buy her back with 15 shekels, an ancient Eastern coins, usually of silver, as an act of MERCY, which was a sign that the LORD would not reject His people forever, fulfilling his promise to Abraham and make his people as numerous as the sand of the sea (Gen:15:13, 22:17, 32:12) (Masonic significance).To the members of the Nation of Islam, this should peak your interest in studying what Master Fard Muhammad taught about himself….

However, the term GOMER, within a military content, is a military slang, meaning stupid, troublesome, usually homeless or wicked. For, television viewers, this is where the term “GOMER” PYLE stems from. But, in the modern-day prophecy, GOMER represents how some of our women have become and are portrayed on television, or Instagram, Facebook, as the THOT despite the levels of education and achievements, they have obtained on a large scale.

However, from a mythological and cosmological overview, this woman named GOMER symbolizes THE BLACK WOMAN, who was the daughter of Diblaim” a  derived from the word develah (fig-cake), since she was as sweet in everyone’s mouth; is a reoccurring ALLEGORICAL story, which appears in Isis and Osiris, along with Jesus and Saint Mary, called Magdalene, from whom seven demons had gone out (Luke 8:2), who stood at the foot of Christ during his crucifixion and the first to preach of his RESURRECTION.

Because, “the last shall be first, and the first last: for many be called, but few chosen.” FOR, A NATION CAN RISE NO HIGHER THAN ITS WOMAN(Matt 20:16) (bobbeethehater.blogspot.com)

BOBBEE BEE: THE TEN COMMANDMENTS OF STEPPARENTING

SUN-DAY SCHOOL CLASS: THE TEN COMMANDMENTS OF STEPPARENTING

All families have to work at peaceful coexistence. So, practitioners offer the following advice to stepparents who want to increase family harmony.

1. PROVIDE NEUTRAL TERRITORY.

Most people have a strong sense of territoriality. Stepchildren may have an especially strong sense of ownership because some of their privacy may be invaded. If it is impossible to move to a new house where each child has a bedroom, provide a special, inviolate place that belongs to each child individually.

2. DO NOT TRY TO FIT A PRECONCEIVED ROLE.

Be honest right from the start. Each parent has faults, peculiarities, and emotions, and the children will have to get used to these weaknesses. Children detect phoniness and will lose respect for any adult who is insincere or too willing to please.

3. SET LIMITS & ENFORCE THEM.

One of the most difficult issues is discipline. Parents should work out the rules in advance and support each other in enforcing the rules. Rules can change as the children grow, but there should be in agreement in the beginning on such issues as mealtimes, bedtimes, resolving disagreements, and household responsibilities.

4. ALLOW AN OUTLET FOR THE CHILDREN'S FEELINGS FOR THE BIOLOGICAL PARENT.

The stepparent should not feel rejected if a child wants to maintain a relationship with a noncustodial biological parent. Children's affections for their biological parents should be supported so that the children do not feel disloyal.

5. EXPECT AMBIVALENCE.

Children's feelings can fluctuate between love and hate, sometimes within a few hours.

6. AVOID MEALTIME MISERY.

7. DO NOT EXPECT INSTANT LOVE.

It takes time for emotional bonds to be forged sometimes this never occurs. Most children under 3 years of age adapt with relative ease. Children over age 5 may have difficulty. Some children are initially excited at having a "new" mother or father but later find that the words "I hate you" are potent weapons.

8. DO NOT ACCEPT ALL THE RESPONSIBILITIES; THE CHILD HAS SOME, TOO.

9. BE PATIENT

Remember "Things take time." The first few months, and often years, are difficult. The support and encouragement of other parents who have had similar experiences can be invaluable.

10. MAINTAIN THE PRIMACY OF THE MARITAL RELATIONSHIP.

The couple must remember that the marital relationship is primary in the family. The children need to see that the parents get along together, can settle disputes, and most of all, will not be divided by the children. (Sources:Marriage&Families) (bobbeethehater.blogspot.com)

 THREE STAGES OF A STEPFAMILY (GETTING TO KNOW ONE ANOTHER)

Clinician Patricia Papernow divided the process of becoming a stepfamily into three major stages. The early stage is characterized by fantasies, confusion, and slowly getting to know others; in the middle stage the family begins to restructure; and in the later stage, the family achieves its own identity.

I.THE EARLY STAGES: Getting Started Without Getting Stuck

1.) FANTASY-Most remarrying couples start out not only with the fantasy that they will love the children of the person they love and be loved by them but that they will be welcomed into a ready-made family. They see themselves as filling empty spots for the children, for their spouses, and for themselves.

Children in new stepfamilies, too, have fantasies, a mixture of hope and fear. Some children still hope that their biological parents will reunite. Or they may fear losing or injuring one of their own parents if they come to love a stepparent.

2.)IMMERSION.-Chaos and confusion often characterize this stage. Familiarity and strangeness continually clash, but the problems are seen differently by biological parents, children, and stepparents. Stepparents may feel left out of the biological parent-child unit and may experience jealousy, resentment, and inadequacy.

The biological parent is often caught in the middle. Some exhaust themselves trying to meet everyone's needs and make the stepfamily work; others try to deny the difficulties. Particularly in the latter case, the children may feel lost and ignored. Some children respond with tears and angry outbursts; others withdrew.

3.) AWARENESS-Members of the stepfamily get to know each other and "map the territory" of each family member. Stepparents can learn about the children's likes and dislikes, their friends, and their memories without trying to influence the children. Biological parents can articulate how much change his or her children can tolerate and try to find the right balance between overprotecting children and asking too much of them. Children should be encouraged to look at the positive aspects of the stepfamily, such  as the love both parents offer, or want to offer, them

II. THE MIDDLE STAGE: RESTRUCTURING THE FAMILY

4.) MOBILIZATION-It is in this critical stage that many stepfamilies fall apart. The stepparent's task is to identify a few important changes that matter (such as establishing family meetings to deal with difficult issues) and make a sustained effort to communicate these to other family members while respecting the biological unit.

The biological parent's task is to voice the needs of her or his children and ex-spouse while supporting and empathizing with step-parent's concerns. Children may voice their own needs to ease the pressures of their conflicting loyalties.

5.) ACTION- In this stage, the stepfamily can begin to make larger moves to reorganize its structure by making some truly joint decisions about how the family will operate. The stepparent begins to play a more active role in the family and the biological parent doesn't feel the pressure to be all things to all people. Both parents work together as a team in making decisions and carving time out for themselves.

III. LATER STAGES: SOLIDFYING THE STEPFAMILY

6.) CONTACT-In this stage, family members begin to interact more easily. There is less withdrawal and more recognition of each other's efforts when things go right. The stepparent has become a firm insider in the adult couple relationship and has begun to forge a more intimate, authentic relationship with at least some of the stepchildren.

7.) RESOLUTION-Relationships begin to feel comfortable. The stepparent role is now well defined and solid. Stepparents become mentors to some of their stepchildren. Other stepparent-stepchild relationships have reached a mutually suitable distance. The adult step couple has become a sanctuary, a place to turn for empathy, support, and cooperative problem-solving. The step-family finally has a sense of character and its own identity. (Source:P.Papernow) (bobbeethehater.blogspot.com)

BOBBEE BEE THE HATER: FAMILY FEUDS: SEPARATING YOURSELF FROM TOXIC FAMILY MEMBERS

FAMILY FEUDS: SEPARATING YOURSELF FROM TOXIC FAMILY MEMBERS by e.graham

With feelings of isolation, insecurity, loneliness, rejection and racism tugging psychologically at the mind of Meghan Markle, Duchess of Sussex, who, possibly, could be suffering from abandonment issues and a case of depression-like her husband Harry, due to the lack of physical and emotional involvement of their fathers growing up as children, made a conscious decision to distance themselves from their “alleged” TOXIC FAMILY MEMBERS in Buckingham Palace in London and move or MEGIXT to Los Angeles, California.

While both of them coping with their parents going through messy divorces, Markle, who separated herself from her father, Thomas Wayne Markle Sr., who betrayed her by talking with, the seemingly TOXIC  tabloids, during her wedding along with her half-sister, Samantha Markle, who claims she suffers from " narcissistic personality disorder in her tell-all-book, actually admitted to Oprah, during the interview that she contemplated suicide due to all the brouhaha brewing around the birth of her child along with his potential blackness and her royal seclusion.

The red-head former Prince, Duke of Sussex, like his wife also SEPARATED  from his “so-called royal family”, which includes his brother, William, while still trying to cope with the trauma of his mother’s mysterious and untimely death, which seems to be still haunting him to this day.

With all of this royal rumbling, some of us, even though, we hate to admit it, also have some TOXIC FAMILY MEMBERS causing HAVOC in our own simple lives, just like the ones plaguing these young newlyweds, who are trying to maneuver through life with COVID-19 spreading rampantly throughout the globe.

So, despite, their social and economic status, we also have had to distance ourselves from OUR perceived TOXIC FAMILY- by putting up MENTAL borders and roadblocks along with psychological fences for our defense in order to create separation from our siblings and in-laws to keep our sanity and prevent fights and conflicts from being a reoccurring event.

Why? Because, all of that chaos can be physically, psychologically and emotionally draining to the psyche of an individual, who simply desires peace. Which is totally unhealthy? Unfortunately, these wedges within the family structure, usually, are a result of jealousy, envy, unwanted competition, insecurity, and hatred. All of this, OF course, makes being in those family inner circles uncomfortable and unsafe. Especially, if one has lost trust in those individuals, which leads a person to remove him or herself totally from immediate family members, cousins, and parents.  Which, in some cases,  causes a person never to re-turn home again. Not even, for graduations, Christmas dinners, weddings, birthdays, or family reunions.

Matter of fact, the only event, which can bring the family back together, is death. For, during DEATH, we, sometimes, bury the pain and burdens with the body, while showing a little compassion, learning to forgive and forget. But, after the funeral is over, and the casket is covered with dirt, the drama continues.

WITH THAT SAID, what are some PSYCHOLOGICAL CONSEQUENCES from “SOCIALLY DISTANCING” yourself from TOXIC FAMILY MEMBERS? They are broken down into 5 sections: (Source:THill)

1. THE CHAMELEON EFFECT, which refers to the nonconscious mimicking of one’s postures, mannerisms, facial expressions, mirroring their motion, which usually comes along with a fake smile, hateful hugs, phony phone calls, inspiring text messages, a Facebook friend request and unwelcomed invitations to parties, un-giving Christmas gifts, and monetary hand-outs in order to purchase your affection for a short period of time.

All of this is done to gain access to your friendship again. Only, for them to repeat the same old TOXIC behavior as before. Because, despite, you being totally fed up with the person’s shenanigans.  This narcissistic, drama queen, will become so BRAND NEW, you might not even recognize them. Because, they might greet you with a “Hey Girl, How You Been Doing?” Even though, she was the cause of the conflict in the beginning. Despite that, she may even suggest,  “I know, you, probably don’t want to have anything to do with me. But, I am going to forgive you anyway. For, acting the way you do. Hell, I’m trying to be nice to you.

2. TRIANGULATION, which is the name for a rather heartless form of manipulation (consider Jada Smith) in which one person seeks to control a three-person interpersonal situation for their own benefit. It often involves the use of threats of exclusion or strategies that aim to divide and conquer. For example, the person may call you and say, “You know…We are Family, right? You need to get over that mess? Hell, it can’t be that bad? Man, just get over it. You know how your brother is? "It was an entanglement"

3. DIFFUSION OF RESPONSIBILITY, which occurs when people who need to make a decision wait for someone else to act instead. The more people involved, the more likely it is that each person will do nothing, believing someone else from the group will probably respond. This happens when a family member, who has accepted the role as the Hero, in order to solve all disputes, usually, the Grandmother or Auntie, steps in and apologizes for the person or persons, who harmed you, while he or they sit back and pretends he never did anything wrong, guilt-free, which is KNOWN as the stand by effect.

4 . SNOOPING SIBLING; & GOSSIPPY GIRLFRIEND

This person, in street terms, is “chatty-patty,”(aka Tasha K.) who is always telling other people’s business. Trying to get all the bad news, hidden secrets, who got locked up, who got cheated on.etc.etc. They want to know “Who said, what? “What had happened was?” In order, to get the DRAMA GOIN’ and the FAMILY IN TURMOIL. (Get your wine glasses and spilling the tea.

5. DOUBTS, SHAME, & REGRETS-, which is a roller coaster of emotions that can occur because of your decision to DISTANCE YOUR SELF FROM those TOXIC FAMILY MEMBERS, even though, one still may feel left out, ignored, and even a little embarrassed that the toxicity fractured the foundation of love, friendship, and order in your home. (bobbeethehater.blogspot.com)

BOBBEE BEE: NOBODY WINS WHEN THE FAMILY FEUDS (KIRK FRANKLIN & THE FAMILY)

Nobody wins when the family feuds. But my stash can't fit into Steve Harvey's suit. I'm clear why I'm here, how about you?" by Jay-Z

SUN-DAY SCHOOL CLASS: NOBODY WINS WHEN THE FAMILY FEUDS by e.graham

With 16-time Grammy award-winning gospel musician and songwriter, Kirk Franklin's profanity-laced tirade being leaked to the internet by his 32-year old son, "Black" YouTube viewers, Facebook followers and the "Black" Christians are, now. debating parenting styles along with proper father and son relationships.

Despite all this attention and TOXICITY, seemingly, surrounding this so-called "Royal Christian Family",.... "there is nothing new under the sun, according to Ecclesiastes 1:9.

Besides, remember, (Luke 12:51-53,) which Christ stated:

"Suppose ye that I am come to give peace on earth? I tell you, Nay; but rather DIVISION:.. For from henceforth there shall be five in one house divided, three against two, and two against three.

"The father shall be divided against the son, and the son against the father;...."

For, just read the Book of 2 Samuel, to learn about the TRANSGRESSION of the biblical character David, an accomplished musician and (2 Sam 23:1) "sweet composer of Israel" ( 2 Sam 11:1-27), that involved: adultery, murder, and what some suggest is "pornography" as well as the TROUBLE & TURMOIL occurring in his house and family, which included RAPE, INCEST, MURDER, & BETRAYAL, to name a few.

In learning about the turbulence surrounding David and his family, we, all, should analyze the FAMILY FEUDS occurring or re-occurring in our own household, which has family members "FALLING OUT," fussing, cussing, and fighting on FaceBook, family reunions, and on a daily bases and utilize it as a teaching tool to build better relationships with our sons, whom, we may have "given up on" due to HIS last criminal charge or our daughter, whom, we may have stopped talking to, due to our last heated argument. For, according to (1 Tim 3:4-6)

"An overseer must manage his own household well and keep his children under control, with complete dignity. For if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how can he care for the church of God? He must not be a recent convert, or he may become conceited and fall under the same condemnation as the devil.…

With that stated, despite, some, especially, "in the Black Christian Church, "whether it's Steve Harvey or Rick Smiley, who may believe, Kirk Franklin, who almost looks unrecognizable due to PLASTIC SURGERY is "TOO GOOD" to be corrected. Remember it was "Christ, himself, who said "Why callest thou me GOOD? there is none GOOD but one, that is, God.”

However, don't get it twisted, because I'm not taking sides in this war between father and son. For, the Book of Proverbs makes it clear that, even though children are a blessing, they tend toward evil if left to their own nature (Pro:22:15.) So, parents are urged to discipline their youngsters, because neglecting to do so amounts to condemning a child to death. (Pro:19:18.)

Plus, a child, who is abusive to his parents shames them and violates God commandments "to honor your father and mother" (Ex20:12, Deut 5:16) because whoever curses his father and mother, his lamp will be put out in DARKNESS.

Obviously, from the "outside looking in" one can see Franklin's son is dealing with some dark issues plaguing his heart-that possibly can be revealed through more therapy, Christian counseling, and pastoral intervention, which (Proverbs 20:27) suggest "The Spirit of a man is the lamp of the Lord, Searching all the inner depth of his heart.

Plus, the gospel-winning singer's son must show better self-control by not becoming "a talebearer revealing secrets"(Prov:11:3) for alleged "Facebook Fame, while Clout Chasing for Cash with all these bloggers on-line. Because a faithful spirit conceals the matter. Therefore, ....set plans by consultation, and wage war under sound guidance. For, he who reveals secrets is a constant gossip; avoid the one who babbles with his lips. (Prov 20:18-19)

So, as this story continues to circulate throughout the Internet, we hope like the Parable of the Prodigal Son also known as the parable  of The Lost Son, Loving Father, or of the Forgiving Father) appearing in Luke 15:11–32, Kerrion, who(Col: 3:21) provoked him to anger" will forgive him and return back to his father.

For, the great Hip-Hop MC, Shawn Carter stated, "Nobody wins when the family feuds"

So, "...be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you."Ephesians 4:32 (bobbeethehater.blogspot.com)