According to (1 Cor 13:4 ), " Love is patient, love is
kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not
self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does
not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always
hopes, and always perseveres.
Despite this scripture, the R&B legend Tina Turner, who
survived an abusive relationship with her husband Ike Turner, famously sang the
lyrics in 1984 on the record "What's Love Got to Do with It" from her
fifth solo album, Private Dancer "Oh-oh, what's love got to do, got to do
with it? What's love but a second-hand emotion?
With that said, we, all have a girlfriend, who always needs
a man, who goes from one bad relationship to the next. But, never, taking the
time to "LEARN THEMSELVES," (Prov:19:8) in order to obtain a new
skill, by going back to school, earning a degree, starting a new job before
getting into a new relationship, bragging about their new BOO, where they,
unfortunately, totally immerse themselves, losing their identity in that
person, without investigation, after ONLY a couple of week, JUSTIFYING THEIR
LOVE-even when the relationship was built on toxicity.
On the flip side, we all know that girlfriend, who JUSTIFIES
HER LOVE, in desperate need of attention, by manipulating men to "secure
the bag" in order to obtain financial freedom, celebrity status, material
gains, such as name-brand bags, foreign trips, exotic cars, and expensive
jewels in exchange for sexual favors, wherein the worst-case scenario, they entrap
them by becoming pregnant, which, sadly, can lead to a cycle of co-dependency.
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This justification for Love, or need for companionship, or
desire to be married, Atlanta Housewives style, in fear of being alone leads
some women to develop forms of
depression because they're not really "happy."
So, they secretly, remain silent, accepting the disrespect
from their mate fearing they will be having an affair. So, they begin to
tolerate all the "baby mama drama, "criminality, serial cheating,
plus physical, emotional, and psychological abuse in order to stay in the
relationship.
Despite all the warning signs, they deny it exists, loathing
that exposing it will dismantle their perceived "PERFECT UNION,"
which was based on deception from the beginning. Therefore, they help to cover
up their lover's infidelities from the general public, even though, it is
obvious to family members, co-workers, and friends.
In situations as this, one may make statements like: "I
know, I don't have what I want, but I will deal with what I have."
But, why would a woman stay with this type of toxic-sexual
relationship, you ask?
Sometimes, it is due to the need for intimacy and sexual
stimulation or sexual gratification.
Which, most priests use Cor (7:8-11) as the premise, which
states if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than
to burn. And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the
wife depart from her husband: But and if she departs, let her remain unmarried
or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
(Triplefold meaning)
Some wicked unlearned preachers and pimps of the scripture
use these verses to JUSTIFY sharing their mates and engaging in threesomes,
which could lead to unwanted sexual diseases, abortions, and broken hearts and
homes.
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Currently, this is the way of the streets, where young women
are engaging in so-called polyamorous relationships, knowingly or not
knowingly, with no level of commitment, in the spirit of Madonna's 1990's song
Justify My Love, who is dating a 27-year old Black male, which contains the
lyrics:
"Wanting, needing, waiting. For you to justify my love.
I'm open and ready. For you to justify my love.
In other cases, a person may stay in such toxic
relationships, while overlooking the abuse for the sake of the children. For,
the person, due to his level of finance, may control all the assets, paying all
the bills. So, even though, he may be a good provider, he is also a toxic
TYRANNY and a TERRORIST through his thoughts and actions, wherein the
worst-case scenario, believes he owns the individual.
Meaning, she is not allowed any independent thought, and
neither is allowed any personal freedom without his permission. (Eph: 5:25-33)
Yet, instill, the person JUSTIFIES their love, even with
this type of abusiveness, because they may have become codependent in this
dysfunctional relationship, where one person is a caretaker, and the other
person takes advantage.
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This belief system can also create a level of paranoia,
personality borderline disorder, where their fight or flight response becomes
almost non-existence due to their traumatic bonding that produces a form of
Cognitive dissonance, which occurs when a person holds contradictory beliefs,
ideas, or values, and is typically experienced as psychological stress when
they participate in an action that goes against one or more of them.
So, how are you going to JUSTIFY YOUR LOVE because wisdom is
justified of all her children (Luke
7:35)
So, ...put off, concerning your former conduct, the old man
which grows corrupt according to the deceitful lusts, and be renewed in the spirit of your mind,
and that you put on the new man which was created according to God, in true
righteousness and holiness. (Eph 4:22-24) (bobbeethehater.blogspot.com)
