BOBBEE BEE: THE NEW BLACK FACE OF IMPERIALISM

By Eric D.Graham

According to former CIA official John Stockwell, History is the history of war---of leaders of countries finding reasons and rationals to send the young people off to fight. Not surprisingly, history has repeated itself once again. But this time, the United States government has successfully put a Black face on Western Imperialism as they continue their quest for world domination. During the Bush Administration, this was accomplished by utilizing the military credibility of Secretary of Defense Colin Powell and the brilliance of National Security Advisor Condoleezza Rice to justify their illegal invasion in Iraq during Operation Iraqi Liberation. Now with the "selection" of President Obama along with the UN Ambassador Susan Rice, the United States is preparing to go to war with Libya at the cost of $300 million a week along with NATO forces in order to oust Col. Muhammar Gaddafi.

The case against Gaddafi, unlike, Saddam Hussein, does not involve Weapons of Mass Destruction but it does involve deception. Historian and author Howard Zinn confirms this when he says, "The modern liberal state....often uses deception to gain its ends---not so much deception of the foreign enemy, but of its own citizens, who have been taught to trust their leaders." Gerald A. Perreira, who served in the Green March, an international battalion for the defense of the Libyan revolution, claims that "in 1996, British intelligence employed the services of an al Qaeda cell inside Libya, paying them a huge fee to assassinate Muammar Qaddafi. A grenade was lobbed at Qaddafi as he walked among a crowd in his hometown, Sirte. He was saved by one of his bodyguards, who threw herself on the grenade."

With all of these acts of espionage, potential backdoor bribes, daily death threats, golden handshakes and silver bullets, President Obama finds himself handcuffed to America's foreign policy and lust for oil. As a result, now, he, like actor Samuel L.Jackson, must decide whether or not he is capable of doing the "Unthinkable." This difficult decision will probably turn the hairs on Obama's head from black to gray, his smooth brown-skin to a wrinkled raisin with worry, and his peaceful dreams into restless nights. "I do alot of praying. Absolutely, every night before I go to bed. I am praying I am making the best possible decisions..." President Obama told Diane Sawyer on ABC Nightly News. Unfortunately, all of the idealism that got Obama elected has been thrown out the window as the reality of Washington's wicked warmongers knock at the front door of the White House with their guns drawn and their fingers already on the trigger. In effect, Obama is now dropping bombs in Libya like Ronald Wilson Reagan did 1986, when he bombed the Bab al-Azizia compound in Tripoli, killing Qaddafi's daughter and over one hundred Libyans.

Obama, in fact, is starting to sound and act a lot like George W. Bush as skillful speech writers cleverly craft his words to meet the United States' agenda. Deep down, however, I know his heart has been blackened not by cigarette smoke but by the wicked words of war scrolling down his teleprompter as he tries to justify America's military intervention in Africa.

According to Rep.Dennis Kucinich of Ohio, President Obama has no constitutional authority to wage war against Libya and has ignored Article 1 section 8, the War Powers Act as well as the UN mandate. Let's not forget, Obama did promise us change. But unfortunately, I think Washington has changed him, changed his outlook on politics, and changed his view of the world. ...

According to John Perkins, an ex-Economic Hitman and author of the Hoodwinked, many times political leaders change their campaign promises due to pressure coming from hidden forces within the government. "Somebody that looks like me walks in their office, and he says look Mister President, I am here to congratulate you on being President....he then says in this pocket I have a couple 100 million dollars for you and your family if you play the game our way, and in this pocket I have a gun to shoot you with if you decide to pursue your campaign promises. The decision is yours...” Perkins explained. "But I want to remind you, remember Salvador Allende , Omar Torrijos, Patrice Lumumba,......remember, remember...And these Presidents all know what happened to those people when they went up against the corporate Corporarcy." Perkins said.

"They either died or get taking out of office."

Even though Perkins used this deadly tactic against foreign leaders overseas, many people believe this same strategy has been used here in the America, and currently still is being used today. Yes. We are living in troubling times and the "Military Industrial Complex" is in full effect. And according to former CIA official and author John Stockwell "Enemies are necessary for the wheels of the U.S. military machine to turn."

Currently, we are seeing the wheels of this well-oiled machine turning in Libya as the United States have made Muhammar Gaddafi the new-enemy of the western world. Yes. The United States of America needs a boogey man larking in the darkness of the sub-conscious minds of its citizens to be successful. And to be truthful, if there wasn't a boogey man, they would create one or manufacture one....in the form of Saddam Hussein, Osama Bin Laden, Fidel Castro, Hugo Chavez and Mahmoud Ahmadinejad...”

This psychological military tactic of creating an enemy is used because a War on Terror can't be accomplished. It's too broad a concept to be destroyed. It's like the War on Drugs or the War on Poverty. As a result, the United States has to put a face on the problem in order to make it tangible or real.

Therefore, once the government puts a face on the problem, the problem, systematically, can be solved by capturing or assassinating the bad guy. In essence, the American people then will believe the issue at hand disappears or is eliminated.

It's a Machiavelli foreign policy practice but as former US Senator Hiram Johnson said "The first casualty of war is truth. And to be truthful, the Government lies.

Therefore, Manuel Noriega became the face of drugs in the late 80's, Fidel Castro the face of Communism, Saddam Hussein because the face of a "mushroom cloud" over America, Bin Laden became the face of Terrorism after 9/11, Ahmadinejad became the face of "Israel's destruction.." and now Mohammar Gaddafi has become the new face of "evil."

Despite all of these USA military mug shots implanted in the brains of the masses and broadcasted over the airwaves, the people must remember that all U.S. military intervention overseas and abroad is always done in order to maintain the global status quo whether this is justified in terms of fighting drugs, fighting terrorism, containing “rogue states,” opposing “Islamic fundamentalism,” or containing China.”

In other words, the ends justify the means, regardless of what political officials suggest. Therefore, the US latest military missions are not about the protection of Libyan civilians, the liberation of women in Afghanistan, the potential rise of an evil dictator, or its loyalty to Israel. It is all about oil.

Now, let's see if I am lying or if they are telling the truth. "I wouldn't place too much emphasis on (oil) with the US's role there (in Libya) but I do think that it is a consideration for the French and others in Europe" said Jeremy Scahill, investigative journalist and author of Blackwater: The Rise of the World's Most Powerful Mercenary Army. "Because most of the oil produced by Libya exported goes to European markets, so, certainly, we should question whether that's a motive for France."

BOBBEE BEE:SEVEN WAYS TO TAP INTO YOUR HIGHER SELF

1.The Practice of Paying Attention Spend 20 minutes observing a patch of Earth outdoors. Observe what lives there. Think or how it came to be and what it takes for it to survive.

2.The Practice of Encountering Others "The harddest spiritual work in the world is to love your neighbor as your self-to encounter them not as someone you can use, change, fix, help or save, but as someone who can spring you from the prison of yourself if you will allow it...to entertain the possibility that this is one of the faces of God.

3.The Practice of Living with Purpose Show your gratitude for being alive through contributing to some common good, whether it is via a vocation you love or volunteer work. "Give your stuff away. Share your food. Be the first to say "I am sorry."

4.The Practice of Saying No Say no for one

whole day; to more work, to shopping, to the Internet. Use the time you gain to pay attention.

5.The Practice of Doing Without Go without power for a day. Light candles. Dry laundry on a clothesline. Sleep by the fire. Feel your heart swell with gratitude when the sun comes up.

6.The Practice of Creativity Create something. Paint, write, cook, dance or plant a garden. "Find the creativity, and you will find yourself experiencing the mystical presence of the transcendent, in the most simple and available way.

7.The Practice of Dreaming

Write down dreams and pay attention to recurring symbols. Honor them as a divine opportunity. Ideas come from authors Barbara Brown Taylor and J.Pittman McGee

BOBBEE BEE: REVOLUTIONARY MINDSET (contains strong language may not be suitable for children)

By Eric D.Graham

According to Gandhi, "First they ignore you. Then they laugh at you. Then they fight you. Then you win. This phrase is prophetic as we see revolution spread throughout Africa and the "so-called Arab world."

And we know that, Revolution is contagious.

And it "spreads like a virus"; according to former presidential candidate Senator John McCain until it consumes the whole entire world. Why? Because Revolution burns inside the souls of the oppressed until it explodes. It is constantly discussed by the despised and the rejected and debated in dark allies by the out casted and the unemployed. It is even pondered and prayed for by the poor, plotted and planned by political activists, philosophized by professors in classrooms, and prophesied by preachers in religious circles until the right moment in time when the people collectively decide to change their reality and their lives. During this campaign for change, the revolutionary slogan is a simple one regardless of religion, color, or creed.

It is the "The People United Will Never Be Defeated."

This slogan sparked the revolution in Tunisia, who casted out its president, Zine al-Abedine Ben Ali, who fled to the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia.

The overthrowing of the unpopular Tunisian government, in effect, set off a chain of protests in the streets of Egypt, Yemen, Jordan, Algeria, Iran, Bahrain, Sudan, and Gabon and even in Madison, Wisconsin.
For those involved in these acts of revolution, however must not let their revolutions be high jacked by the United States government or Israel.

Why? Because democracy, itself, is a frightening concept especially for America, whose so-called founding fathers while writing its Constitution, were oppressing and enslaving Blacks and later denying them along with women, the right to vote.

Matter of fact, George Washington along with Thomas Jefferson, James Madison, James Monroe, Andrew Jackson, Martin van Buren, William Henry Harrison, John Tyler, James Polk, Zachary Taylor, James Buchanan, Andrew Jackson, and Ulysses S.Grant all owned slaves at one point in their lives while claiming "freedom, liberty and justice for all."

As a result, America's political system is and has been hypocritical and corrupt from conception, which leads one to question America's arrogant involvement with establishing democracy in other parts of the world.

Let's not forget that... Absolute power corrupts absolutely.

Therefore, as quick as one evil dictator disappears, the United States of America, with the help of the CIA, will create another political puppet to replace them.

Former CIA official and author John Stockwell, supports this theory when he said..."it is the function of the CIA to keep the world unstable...(and) the CIA has been running thousands of operations over the years...there have been about 3,000 major covert operations and over 10,000 minor operations...all designed to disrupt, destabilize, or modify the activities of other countries...But they are all illegal and they all disrupt the normal functioning, often the democratic functioning, of other societies.."


But why would the United States want to cause disruption in other countries and influence the political process?

According to author Richard Barnet, "the United States supports right-wing dictatorships in Latin America, Southeast Asia, and the Middle East ....because these are the rulers who have tied their personal political destiny to the fortunes of the American corporations in their countries.... Therefore, the United States has a strong economic interest in keeping such men from coming to power or arranging for their removal if they do." (Whether it’s Saddam Hussein in Iraq, Hosni Mubarak in Egypt, the Shah in Iran, or the Saudi Family in Saudi Arabia.)
Barnet goes on to say that "America, like Great Britain before her, is now the great defender of the Status Quo. She has committed herself against revolution and radical change in the underdeveloped world because independent government would destroy the world economic and political system, which assures the United States its disproportionate share of economic and political power.....America's preeminent wealth depends upon keeping things in the underdeveloped world much as they are, allowing change and modernization to proceed only in a controlled, orderly and nonthreatening way."


If Barnett statement is true, America will only support those so-called revolutions which they feel will benefit them financially and condemn those that threaten them politically.

"America is today the leader of a world-wide anti-revolutionary movement in the defense of vested interests." said British historian Arnold Toynbee.

"She now stands for what Rome stood for. Rome consistently supported the rich against the poor in all foreign communities that fell under her sway; and, since the poor, so far, have always and everywhere been far more numerous than the rich, Rome's policy made for inequality, for injustice, and for the least happiness of the greatest."

As a result, the people of Yemen, Libya, and Egypt, must protect themselves from media progranda.

Because as author William Blum of Killing Hope: US Military and CIA Interventions since World War II brilliantly stated, "Propaganda is to democracy what violence is to dictatorship.

Therefore, the corporate-controlled media will view their uprisings in the "so-called Middle East" and Africa through the lens of American self-interest and through the prism of Israel and will see the protesters rallying in the streets as terrorists, jihadists, extremists and radicals.

Yes, perception is reality.

It’s just like the Doublespeak spoken of in George Orwell's book 1984, which famously reads War is Peace, Freedom is Slavery and Ignorance is Strength.

And to the unlearned masses filled with blind flurry and American patriotism, who sit in front of their idiot boxes or televisions, watching misleading edited video footage, and 15 minute sound bites, along with paranoid political pundits on Fox News, could be manipulated into hating the people instead of the government in which they are trying to overthrow.


This could be easily accomplished by demonizing the demonstrators, exaggerating the political protest as a potential threat to national security, faking a diplomatic effort through speeches, humanitarian aid, handshakes, and by establishing a pretext for war.

For instance, in Libya, currently, the United States has reopened the old case against Mohmmar Gadfahi and Pan Am Flight 103, in which 270 people were killed when an airplane exploded over Lockerbie, Scotland, in 1988.

Secretary of State Hillary Clinton even said that the current Obama administration is considering prosecuting Gaddafi for the Pan Am bombing. But isn't it ironic, however, during the uprisings in the "so-called Arab World" and in Africa that former U.S. Secretary of Defense Donald Rumsfeld is promoting his new book "Known and Unknown: A Memoir" and former President George W.Bush is petalling his new book entitled Decision Points while being accused of violating U.S. and international law when he authorized torture, including the water boarding of detainees during his administration.

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BOBBEE BEE: SAGGIN AIN'T COOL

by Judge Greg Mathis

We've all seen young Black men wearing white T-shirts and jeans sagging so low that their underwear was on display for all too see. And we've all shaken our heads and wondered what they were thinking, coming outside dressed like that.

The sad truth is that they probably weren't thinking. They are simply emulating popular fashion, not knowing the trend's origin or understanding the potential social and personal consequences of blindly following the masses.

The saggin' pants trend started in prison. Inmates, not allowed to have belts, wear their pants slung low. Once home, they continued the practice. Young boys in their neighborhoods took the look as their own. The trend grew and is immensely popular in both urban and suburban areas; many White teens now wear their pants dropping below their butts.


Emulating prisoners, or any other group, without understanding what you're doing is dangerous. For young Black men, the trend is especially self-destructive. Copying prisoners can contribute to a prisoner's mentality. Already our young men refer to a prison stint as a state-paid "vacation" or time away at "school." Prison is not luxurious and education received there will not serve the inmate well once he returns home. Prison has become, for many, an unfortunate rite of passage. Instead of fighting against the odds, too many of our boys are embracing the street mentality. They must understand that prison is nothing more than modern-day slavery. Inmates in some U.S. prisons produce products sold on the open market. They receive just $1 a day while the large corporations that run the prison makes millions.

For many of our youth, glorifying the ghetto life and gangsta culture is the modus operandi for "keeping it real." The reality is that there is no glory in living in poverty, going to prison. being killed young or contracting a sexually transmitted disease, all frequent consequences of the thug culture. The current generation of young Blacks is one of the most talented we've ever seen. We repeatedly have proven that we can rise above obstacles. Unfortunately, too many of our youth

are still trapped in a mind-set that ultimately puts them at competitive disadvantage against those who are more privileged. While privileged youth may listen to gangsta rap and mimic some of its culture, at the end of the day, they return to superior schools, economically stable households and most of them attend college. Poor youth don't have the option of taking a detour into self-destruction. When they decide to change directions and recapture their potential for success the privileged youth has captured the opportunity.

One proposed solution is to outlaw saggin' pants, as did the town in Georgia. A better approach might be to embrace, educate and challenge our youth on why they should avoid fads and fashions that would be disrespectful to themselves and their community. We should inform them that saggin' , when spelled backwards, describes the type of the person they don't want to be.

We must be consistent, however; we cannot criticize our boys for wearing their pants low when our girls-and some grown women-are wearing low-rise jeans cut so low that the top of their thongs peek out. That particular style has its roots in prostitution, and the pole-dancing exercise rage comes from strippers. As a community, we must be consistent in what, who and how we criticize and encourage our young people

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Bobbee Bee: Freedom and Mental Health

By Marc Lamont Hill

Mental health or lack thereof is at the root of a lot of society's ails.

Last week, while celebrating his first NBA championship, Ron Artest made a different kind of history within the Black community. During his post-game interview, the mercurial Los Angeles Lakers star gave a public shout-out to his psychiatrist, whom he credited for helping him successfully navigate the pressures of playing on one of the biggest stages in professional sports.

In doing so, as Mychal Denzel Smith brilliantly points out in his recent essay, Artest may have created new space within the public sphere for discussing Black mental health without fear and shame.
The need for reshaping and reinvigorating the public conversation on Black mental health could not come a moment sooner.

Despite comprising only 12 percent of the United States population, Black people represent more than 25 percent of the nation’s mental health needs. Over the past 30 years, Black male suicide rates have climbed by more than 200 percent. The depression rate among Black women is 50 percent higher than their white counterparts. Rates of somatization — the emergence of physical illness related to mental health — occur at a rate of 15 percent among both Blacks and women, as opposed to 9 percent among Whites.

The rising mental health needs among Black people are further compounded by the continued lack of mental health service utilization within the community. While only one-third of all Americans receive care for mental illness, Blacks remain statistically less likely to access proper mental health services than other racial groups.

These numbers suggest that the Black community is in the midst of a full-fledged mental health crisis.

Social misery
Although it is necessary to shake the cultural stigmas that enable the current crisis— the view that mental health maintenance is anti-Black, anti-masculine, and anti-Christian— such work must be accompanied by an equally engaged effort to address the structural issues that compromise Black mental health. We must begin to spotlight the connection between mental health and other social problems plaguing the Black community. We must understand the

collective power of social, cultural and institutional forces in producing, intensifying, and concealing the unique mental health issues confronted by Blacks in the United States.

While all racial and ethnic groups suffer from mental health issues, Blacks are a particularly high-risk population due to their overrepresentation in contexts of social misery. Currently, Blacks account for 40 percent of the country’s homeless population and nearly 50 percent of the prison population. Black children represent nearly 50 percent of all foster care and adoption cases. Additionally, almost 25 percent of Black youth are exposed to enough violence to meet the diagnostic criteria for post-traumatic stress disorder. These conditions not only play a direct role in producing and exacerbating mental illnesses, they also create new levels of social marginalization and isolation that further distance vulnerable populations from the services that they need.Poverty's affect on mental health
Black mental health is further compromised by economic inequality.

While 16 percent of the nation is uninsured, nearly 1 in 4 Blacks live without health insurance, thereby making it difficult to access appropriate mental health services.

Blacks with health insurance still have average employer based coverage rates of only 50 percent, compared to 70 percent for their White counterparts.

These conditions, combined with the disproportionate absence of living wages within the Black community, make mental health services financially nonviable for many Blacks.

While economically disadvantaged Blacks have access to government-run mental health resources, individuals often have to navigate an extremely bureaucratic and fragmented maze of mental health services. Those who ultimately receive services often do not obtain them through

the actual health care system, but through agencies like public schools, welfare offices, and the court system— none of which have the appropriate resources. As a result, many poor Blacks receive uncoordinated, inconsistent, and ineffective levels of care that ultimately discourage them from utilizing the system.
Many of those in prison suffer from mental illness
In addition to poverty, the impact of the prison industrial complex on the current Black mental health crisis cannot be overstated. Beginning with President Reagan’s aggressive efforts to close mental hospitals and cut off federal aid to community mental health programs in the 1980s, the United States has witnessed a dramatic increase in its homeless population. Concurrent with this neo-liberal assault on the welfare state, neo-conservative lawmakers successfully aimed to criminalize ostensibly anti-social behaviors like panhandling, public drinking, and public urination, all of which are routinely linked to mental illness.

As with nearly all criminal justice matters in the United States, arrests, convictions, and sentencing for these offenses are disproportionately assigned to poor Blacks and Latinos.) As a result, many individuals who would have previously been under medical supervision for their mental illnesses (including drug addiction) are now chattel within the for-profit prison industry.
The Department of Justice reports that nearly 16 percent of all prisoners are mentally ill. Also, many states, such as New York, have literally transformed mental health facilities into prisons, as well as devoted billions of dollars to the construction of criminal psychiatric wings within existing prisons. In addition to being fundamentally immoral, the incarceration of the mentally ill is largely ineffective, as federal and state prisons routinely fail to even identify, much less

support or treat its mentally ill patients. As a result, many prisoners fail to comply with prison rules and norms, thereby subjecting them to further punishment, social isolation, and abuse from both authorities and other prisoners. Many ultimately finish their prison sentences and re-enter the world with intensified illnesses due to prison trauma, making them a greater danger to society and themselves.
Historical context
Further complicating the Black mental health crisis is the deep and troubling relationship between Blacks, mental health institutions, and the State.

Since slavery, the American scientific establishment has functioned as an ideological apparatus of White supremacy by advancing and normalizing claims of Black moral, physical, and intellectual inferiority.

As a result, the last four centuries have witnessed the production of deeply racist beliefs and practices that justify the abuse, exploitation, and institutionalization of “flawed” and “diseased” Black bodies.

Early American studies of mental illness, which have since been soundly dismissed by the scientific community for their methodological biases, suggested Blacks were more biologically inclined toward severe mental illness than Whites. Pseudoscientific terms like drapetomania were developed to classify runaway slaves as mentally insane for “abandoning service.” Scientific reports even falsified 1840 Census data on lunacy rates in the North to suggest that freedom was literally driving Blacks crazy. In the 1960s, terms like “protest psychosis” were developed by psychologists to categorize civil rights activists as insane.
By using mental illness to justify the denial of full humanity, freedom, and citizenship to Blacks, as well as ascribe mental pathology to those who operate against the interests of the White supremacist capitalist State, the American medical establishment has engendered a healthy and persistent distrust among Black communities.
The relationship between Blacks and mental health institutions is further undermined by contemporary acts of intended and unintended structural racism. In 2010, Blacks continue to be misdiagnosed with schizophrenia— a condition that has become increasingly imbued with violent and dehumanizing connotations since it became a “Black disease” in the middle of the 20th century— more than other affective disorders.

In response, Blacks receive anti-depressant medication at a rate of 27 percent as opposed to 44 percent of Whites. When receiving the same medication, Blacks are statistically more likely to receive versions with more dangerous side effects. In addition, American mental health workers (only 4 percent of whom are Black) regularly ignore the role of racism, white supremacy, and the structural effects of poverty on the mental health of Black people.
Over the past four centuries, Blacks have fought to end economic exploitation and access to quality schools, jobs, and housing. As we continue to advance our struggle for full citizenship, we must also recognize the relationship between freedom and mental health. By examining the ways that mental health has been weaponized against Black communities by the State, we are able to develop a more informed and insightful analysis of social injustice. By understanding the social barriers to quality mental health, we are better equipped to effectively fight for justice and equality. Most importantly, by reimagining mental health as both a human necessity and a right of citizenship, we can begin our journey toward building the type society, communities, and individuals that we desperately need.

Marc Lamont Hill is Associate Professor of Education at Columbia University.

BOBBEE BEE: LOVE MORE; FIGHT LESS

by Creflo Dollar

Many couples begin their marriages eager to live the fairy tale they've read about, watched on the big screen, or listened to while dancing to their favorite love songs. Movies, books, and songs can paint a picture of martial bliss that has very little to do with REALITY.

In REALITY, when a couple says "I do" and attempts to live out their fairy tale of a happily-ever-after marriage,it isn't long before REALITY sets in, and they realize life is not a fairy tale. It takes a tremendous amount of work and effort, by both parties, to achieve martial bliss.

In the midst of counseling sessions, I have discovered that many married couples have never received instruction in conflict resolution strategies, they resort to settling their differences by fighting. Here are four fighting styles to avoid with dealing with conflicts or problems.

FOUR IMPROPER FIGHTING STYLES
The Eskimo Style

In this case, one or both spouses freeze up after an argument and ignore the situation altogether, hoping time will take care of it.

They withdraw emotionally and nurse their wounds.

This is more commonly known as the silent treatment.

As a result, one or both parties become bitter because a mutual resolution is not reached.

The Cowboy Style

 

This is the "shoot 'em up an' leave 'em for dead!" style. In the heat of passion, couples tend to say things they do not mean, words can hurt, causing a lot of damage to a marriage and severely limiting any chances of reconciling differences.

The Houdini Style

When conflict arise, one or both parties become escape artists. He or she does not like conflict and will avoid it as much as possible. Rather than face an issue head-on, this individual will just leave. Often this spouse will turn to destructive behaviors such as drinking, excessive shopping, sitting in front of the television for hours, or overeating. He or she will do whatever it takes to avoid dealing with the situation.

The World Boxing Association Style


Here we have one or both parties handling conflicts with their fists. He or she may begin to deal with an issue rationally, but anger often takes over, and the individual becomes physicallly abusive.  This spouse may be an abuser who is in need of counseling.

No matter what situation you may face as a couple, realize that fighting is not the best wayy to resolve conflict.
 Pray about it and seek God's wisdom in every circumstance.

From Winning in Troubled Times: God's Solutions For Victory Over Life's Toughest Challenges by Dr.Creflo Dollar