"BORN TO BE LOVED; LOVE TO BE HATED!"
His Anger Teaches Everybody Reality!!
It's your boy BOBBEE BEE "THE HATER" aka the trouble maker from the "city of brotherly love" I am an obnoxious, opinionated, third grader whose ego is bigger than T.O.! I am an "odd"combination of Terrell Owens, KOBE Bryant, Rasheed Wallace, and Allen Iverson!
by Eric D. Graham #TheRapProfessor. If you like what you are learning ($JeffreyBarnes)
BOBBEE BEE"THE HATER"wasin theLONGHORN STATEfor the 38th National Black SocialWorkers Conference inHouston, Texas(April 12th thru the 16th.) This year’s theme was “In the Spirit ofSankofa:Facing the Challenges.
The National Conference of BlackSocial Workersis a vehicle where educators and professionals canenhance their skills,learn aboutAfrican-centeredapproachesto implementing human services delivery systems, and hear about researchconducted by people ofAfricanancestry for the betterment of the African-American community. The conference also offers an opportunity for commited professionals to network and exchange ideas and approaches. Terrence Graham, who is a graduate ofNorth Carolina A&T State University where he received a B.A. in Psychology and a Master’s in Agency Counseling,attended several life-changing workshops with themes that included:
RisingYoungBlackAdministrators:A Call To Action Facing Challenges: The Impact ofHip-HopMusic onAfrican-AmericanGirls and Women.Partnering withSingle MothersRaising Male Youth Understanding theAfrican-AmericansWithin theCriminal Justice SystemPreventing Genocide: Librating OurBrothersfrom the FourHorsemen:Miseducation, Drugs, Incarceration, and Homelessness Let the Healing Begin: Using Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to HelpAfrican American withPost Traumatic Stress DisorderandSubstance Abuse. Terrence also participated in the3rd Annual Jazz Cafe’ Author’s Book Signing Eventwhile inHouston, Texaswhere heintroduced his "therapeutic" cartoon character Bobbee Bee "The Hater" as well as his new children’s book entitled“LARRY LONG LEGS”. This is the second book to be published in the Graham Brother's“BACK TO SCHOOL WITH A NEW ATTITUDE” literary campaign, which is designed to improve the attitude of children in the public school system and at home. We are sincerely grateful for our “little success.” We just want the community to continue to support us, pray for us, and encourage us, to produce better books that will have a political, social, and educational impact on the minds of our youth.” stated Eric Graham.
Other books written by the Graham brothers' coming soon include: "The Gossip Girls, HOPE is STRONGER THAN HURRICANE, DIARY OF A MAD CHILD, andASAD DAY JOSE.
The traditional (Freudian view) is that a defense mechanism is a weapon employed by the Ego(reality principle) to protect from anxiety, conflict, shame, depression, and other types of painful experiences. The psycho-dynamic counselor treats defenses with respect, acknowledging that most of them were developed in early childhood. Below I have listed Eight defenses mechanisms utilized by Bobbee Bee and his friends: 1.Denial Denial is refusing to face up to something about either themselves or what is happening in their lives. It is an “unconscious” defense mechanism which refuses to acknowledge thoughts, emotions, needs or wishes that can cause anxiety.
For example, the President Clinton-Monica Lewinsky scandal: "I didn't have sexually relationship with that woman!“Hear no evil, See NO evil, Speak NO Evil”
2.Displacement
Displacement is another defense which involves the redirecting of feelings and impulses from the original source to another object, person or situation.
An example, is when a person feels angry with their boss but is unable to express it, on arriving home their angry is displaced on their spouse. This is a classic case of Domestic Violence!
3.Fixation
Like (regression), fixation is a defence which relates to the earlier developmental stages.
The term is used to explain when an individual gets stuck at a certain stage or fixed in their outlook, demonstrating failure to progress from one stage of development to the next.
For instance, 'a mother/father fixation is used to describe when an adult is highly reliant on nurturing, approval, or guidance from the parental figure (mom's boy; daddy's girl.)
This fixation can also appear in the transitional period between adolescents and adulthood which causes 'role confusion' because the individual has failed to resolve certain issues during that period of development. For instance, many child stars in Hollywood have a difficult process moving from child actor to adult film star.
4. Repression
Repression is at the root of many other defenses as a means of blocking an unpleasant experience from memory; “pent up thoughts”.
The psycho-dynamic understanding of the term is when anxiety-laden thoughts, feelings & experience have been totally forgotten, hidden away in the deep recesses of the unconscious mind.
This usually occurs when a child has been sexually abused.
On a cultural and historical level, however, the forgotten truth of slavery has "collectively" damaged the psyche of the African-American community.
5. Regression:
Regression is another defense that refers to a person who resorts to action that has provided security in the past.
In psychoanalytical theories the implication is that anxiety or stress cause the individual to retreat from reality into an infantile state or pattern behavior. For example, an 11-year old begins to suck their thumb or using baby language.
In light, regression can be seen as a type of distracting device or a refusal to go forward at the point in time until unresolved material held within the psyche is satisfactorily addressed. Some have labeled this the"Peter Pan Syndrome."
6. Rationalization: Rationalization ,in the psychoanalytic theory, as a defense mechanismrationalization conceals the real motivation for the individual thoughts, feelings, or actions.
Irrational, obscure, and confusing material is “rationalized” made sense of, by the client, as a defense against the therapist probing, disapproval, or interpretation.
For instance, President Bush and his cabinet tried to justify attacking IRAQ by claiming that they had “weapons of Mass Destruction” 7.Projection
This is the defense of attributing to other feelings or aspects of self which can not be directly owned. Projection takes the onus of responsibility from the one who projects by placing (often negative) attention on the other person where unconscious urges can be safely identified.
An example of projection is when one person accuses another of being, angry, unhappy or bad tempered, when it is the speaker who is secretly feeling the emotion.
The anxiety-provoking feelings are externalized by dissociation from the self and by reallocation to another person.
The late great Barry White simplifies this seemingly complex theory by singing "Practice What You Preach". Many Preachers (especially in the Catholic church) as well as politicians have utilized this defense mechanism (Jimmy Swaggart, Jim Baker (PTL), former governor of New Jersey James E. McGreevey, Ted Haggard)
8. Idealization Idealization is a form of denial in which an object of attention (parent, partner, sibling) is presented as “all good” to the therapist, making ambivalent feelings toward the other. So instead of declaring feelings of jealousy and hatred towards the sister who excels at everything she does, the client says how clever and marvelous she is and how well the two have always got along; rather that stating their father was cruel, bullying, megalomaniac, the dutiful daughter says that he was kind, considerate father whom she adored when the client talks about the person in exaggeratedly glowing terms, this may be a signal that opposite emotions lurk beneath the acceptable one. The "ALL BAD" representation of illicit emotions of hatred and fear towards the other person is too dangerous to acknowledge and has therefore been replaced, and repressed.
The greatest example "Idealization" is the creation of DEATH ROW Records by the "notorious"Suge Knight.
Information obtained from Aileen Milne a trained counselor who runs her own private practice with additional details by Eric Graham
For information about our cartoon character as well as our books and presentations contact: Eric D. Graham PO Box 172 Magnolia, NC 28453
Unhappiness is not knowing what we want and killing ourselves to get it-Don Harold
By Iyanla Vanzant
Can I continue to live in lack and limitation, denying myself the abundant goodness of the world?
Or can I make a plan, a follow a dream; do what I can, where I am, with what I have?
Can I? Can I? Can I?
Can I continue to buy into the belief that there is not enough, I am not enough, settling for whatever I can get?
Or can I do my best in every situation, expecting the best from every situation, recognizing that what I put out must come back to me tenfold?
Can I? Can I? Can I continue to live in fear, complaining about what I do not have, cannot do, criticizing myself and others?
Or can I take a chance, find an opportunity and know in my heart what I want to do is possible?
Can I? Can I?
Can I blame the world, hate my enemy, and feel sorry for myself as an excuse not to do what I desire to do? Or can I raise my consciousness, pour love into every situation and take responsibility for myself?
Can I? Can you?
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Be careful not to blame the victim! It is easy to do. When a child repeatedly spoils your plans, triestohurt other children, embarrassesyou in the front of colleagues, andparents,and make you feel ineffective as ateacher.It's easy toexpressangrytoward that child. But young children are not calculated.They just act and react. It istemptingto ascribenegative characteristicsto that child and make dire predictions for his or her future! (by karen miller)
Comments like "He'll neverbe anything!" "He'll be injailbefore heis twelve!" "There no needteachinghim; Heis just no good!" "There is no HOPE for that child!" Nobody, however, is surprisedwhen children who are exprencing trauma in their lives act in ways that may be difficult fora teacher to handle. Theirfeelings, their frustrations, and theirfearsmust get expressed. Very young children are more likely to use actions rather than words to express themselves. Sensitive and caring guidance from a trusted teacher, a counselor, or a therapists can have a very positive impact on how children cope.
Ironically, Black students desperately need black role models for developing self-esteem and identity. They also need counselors who can emphasize with their situation as "minorities" and provide guidance in a society where racism still is alive and well..
BOBBEE BEE the HATER the MOVIE from Terrence Graham on Vimeo. Young people will use disruptive behavior to cover up their deficiencies in other areas. This is why our cartoon character Bobbee Bee "The Hater" is so important to teachers, counselors, therapists, and students because he expresses the true"feelings, frustrations, and fears" that young people are experencing in their homes, communities, and schools regardless of race, religion, or creed.
He is Loved by Few; Hated By Many.He is the Voice of the Voiceless. He is the Hope for the Hopeless. He is a Friend to the Friendless. He provides Power to the Powerless. He isBoBBee Bee"The Hater!"Sometimes the "The Bad Guy" is the Hero! Invite him to your school and watch the frowns turninto smiles. Let's leave "NO CHILD LEFT BEHIND"
NORTH CAROLINA-(BASN)-Since Miley Cyrus appeared on Saturday Night Live last night and the government of the United States has been “shut down” for at least a week, we, at Blackathlete.net, felt this article was necessary to be published and debated.
The 50th anniversary of the March on Washington for Jobs and Freedom, along with the historic “I Have a Dream” speech delivered by Dr.Martin Luther King Jr., was seemingly hi-jacked by the raunchy MTV Video Music Awards’ performance given by scantily dressed, Dad’s little girl, Miley Cyrus, who shamefully “twerked” her way on stage for the all the world to see. (Read:On Miley Cyrus, Ratchet Culture and Accessorizing With Black People on BASN)
Hilariously, white America lost its “cotton-picking” mind when they saw their little fallen angel being turned into a little dirty demon right before their eyes, as if she was possessed by some god-awful evil spirit, twerking half-naked on stage.
But, the pimping of Miley Cyrus is nothing new.
Hollywood did the same thing to Madonna, Lady Gaga, Britney Spears, Christina Aguilera, Lil Kim, Nikki Manji and even Mariah Carrey, just like the NCAA continues to do to college athletes (Read my article Politics of Corruption: Taking a closer look a college sports)
Besides, sex sells.
ESPN The Magazine knows this, especially with the annual publishing of their Body issue as well as Sports Illustrated with its annual Swimsuit issue.
But, make no mistake about it, I am no Puritan.
For, I love the sacredness and the beauty of the human body like anyone else, whether with clothes on or with clothes off , or in slow motion or standing still.
But, in this sin-sick world, they are sadly selling children soft porn as if it was an innocent music video.
A DIVINE SIGN
Therefore, Cyrus’s on-stage performance, could have been a divine sign for all our people to see? (Read my article Babylon is fallen!!! Apocalyptic athletic viewpoint on BASN)
Why? Because, I am certainly sure, Dr.King, who wanted complete integration into American society, didn’t want our children to integrate in such hellish behavior and conduct?
And, we shouldn’t worry too much about Miley Cyrus’s mental-state?
She is simply the latest “girl-gone wild” that Hollywood is going to pimp and exploit.
In other words, I don’t think we should call Iyanla Vanzant and Oprah to come Fix Her Life yet.
Besides, for some odd reason, we are still trying to save Lindsay Lohan from herself.
And why, we continue to try to save “our former slave-masters children” like we are still the hired help, honestly, is more disturbing that Hanna Montana’s performance.
Brooklyn, please stand up!!
And while this event was held in Brooklyn, at the Barclay Center, it was refreshing to find out that Jay-z wasn’t there to represent that foolishness. But it was sad, however, to see Lil Kim’s self-hatred displayed and her botched plastic surgery, which has her face looking like a Thunder-cat.
This is just another example of how the quest for Hollywood stardom and white acceptance has the ability to steal our people’s souls, just like Michael Jackson, whose 55th birthday would have occurred on August 29th, if he didn’t tragically die.
Maybe, North Carolina rapper J.Cole should have grabbed Lil Kim and looked her “dead in her eyes” and performed his hit song “Crooked Smile, which he rhymes:
Love yourself, girl, or nobody will Though you’re a woman, I don’t know how you deal With all the pressure to look impressive and go out in heels; I feel for you Killing yourself to find a man that’ll kill for you
Yes, this would have been a touching moment in a bad night of performances, which the new “self-proclaimed” KING OF NEW YORK, Kendrick Lamar, embarrassingly performed on stage as Miley Cyrus gyrated and simulated herself sexually with a larger foamed finger on stage with Robin Thycke, who with the help of hip-hop producer Pharrell ripped off Marvin Gaye melody to produce the hottest single of the summer. (Read my article:Who’s the Real King of New York? on BASN)
But this event, whether you deemed it appropriate or inappropriate, was simply a weapon of mass distraction from bigger issue facing Black America.
However, the serious question must be asked, was all of this ugliness a part of MLK’s dream?
Integration or Separation?
Seriously, why would he want us to integrate into a burning house like the one we saw disgusting displayed on Sunday at the VMAs?
But after seeing that debauchery, why wouldn’t we want to separate and run as far away as possible from such filth in order to prevent the flames of destruction from catching us, especially when you start reciting MLK’s “I Have a Dream speech…”
one day right there in Alabama little black boys and black girls will be able to join hands with little white boys and white girls as sisters and brothers. I have a dream today!
Nightmarish Reality
Because, while the corporate media focuses all of its attention on that one I Have a Dream speech,” they fell to inform the general public about Dr. King’s speech delivered in Atlanta, Georgia in 1967, where he said later that his dream had become a nightmare.
“In 1963…in Washington, D.C.,…I tried to talk to the nation about a dream that I had had, and I must confess…that not long after talking about that dream I started seeing it turn into a nightmare…just a few weeks after I had talked about it. It was when four beautiful…Negro girls were murdered in a church in Birmingham, Alabama. I watched that dream turn into a nightmare as I moved through the ghettos of the nation and saw black brothers and sisters perishing on a lonely island of poverty in the midst of a vast ocean of material prosperity, and saw the nation doing nothing to grapple with the Negroes’ problem of poverty. I saw that dream turn into a nightmare as I watched my black brothers and sisters in the midst of anger and understandable outrage, in the midst of their hurt, in the midst of their disappointment, turn to misguided riots to try to solve that problem. I saw the dream turn into a nightmare as I watched the war in Vietnam escalating….Yes; I am personally the victim of deferred dreams, of blasted hopes.”
After reading a portion of that speech, on the 50th anniversary of the March on Washington for Jobs and Justice, we can’t only be critics of pop culture and Miley Cyrus’s poor rendition of twerking but, we also must be critics of American Imperialism, just like MLK did.
Especially, when you consider King’s often overlooked “Beyond Vietnam: A Time to Break Silence” address, that was delivered on April 4, 1967, just one year to the day before his state-sponsored assassination, which he called America “the greatest purveyor of violence in the world today.”
Yes, it is Time to Break the Silence.
Because, if we don’t, America will increasingly become a police state, a surveillance society and a prison planet, while the poor find themselves living in dilapidated houses like the ones seen in Detroit and around the country.
Therefore, we can’t continue to dance and party our lives away, while falling asleep at the wheel to the strange sounds of Lady Gaga, Katy Perry, Hanana Montana, Taylor Swift or Thrift Store shopper turned rapper Macklemore. (Read my article Big Brother is watching on BASN)
Because all that dancing and buffoonery want end the suffering, the unemployment, or the under employment drastically affecting our people.
Or teach them about their glorious past and history.
Military-industrial complex
And while a majority of Black people continue to applaud President Obama for being the first African-American president, we can’t be disconnected from the divine truth that governs our existence.
Or, become distracted by the constant chatter coming from political pundits on television, without having an honest dialogue about the political policies being implemented by his administration, which are based in white Domination and Black Suffering and for the defense of Israel’s wicked Zionist apartheid regime. (Where is Helen Thomas, the first woman to cover the President in the White House, when you need her? (R.I.P))
Why? Because, truthfully, Obama’s presidency is the continuation of President Bush’s, that promoted America’s military-industrial complex, which President Dwight Eisenhower warned us about some fifty years ago.
And currently, like dej vu, we are right back where we started from, at the brink of another war, with another attempt to find weapons of mass destruction, this time in Syria.
For this very reason, Barack Hussein Obama should probably have his Nobel Peace Prize taken away like the NCAA took away Reggie Bush’s Heisman Trophy. The Unseen Hands
But for some odd reason, we have been seduced by his ability to give a good speech, play a little basketball and recite a couple of lines from a Jay-Z song.
So, in effect, we have actually accepted his illusion of power and rejected the truth that he is simply just another politician, whom despite what the “dreamers” want to believe, is controlled by the same unseen hands, who have money to buy lobbyist and influence legislation from a far.
Sure, we love to see Barack and Michelle holding hands and displaying Black love in the public, but their ability to change the Red, White and Blue, as the writer of the TheFieldNegro suggested: is never going to change “until the people in this country remove their blinders and stop playing cards with a rigged deck.” With that said, some Black people, in the last five years, it seems, have given up and thrown away the tradition of our ancestors of Black struggle, Black Resistance, and Black Liberation in order to celebrate the America Dream, all because of Obama was elected and re-elected.
Sadly, despite Obama presidency, the United States of America’s government is still wicked.
Yes, Obama’s election maybe a sign to what is to come, a symbol of Black ruler ship as the world becomes browner by 2025.
But his presidency, however, was not a sign for us to go to sleep and start dreaming again like Dr.King did before he woke up, and was assassinated by the same government, who celebrates him today.
Black Middle Class Butlers
And truthfully, with Obama and Michelle in the White House, it feels as if many of us have cashed in ours checks, which Dr.King said contained insufficient funds…in order to purchased superfiscal stuff like fancy cars, expansive homes, and flat screen Tvs, while becoming shamefully delighted to be invited to the White House and sit at the table with these war-mongers, especially the dwindling Black Middle Class, whom I guess, desired to be a bunch of Butlers, like Lee Daniels suggested in his movie, in order to serve white folks until the world comes to an end.
But, I guess, that will all change now, after this government shutdown, as the country debates this healthcare bill.
Let’s not forget, Slick Willie, Bill Clinton, according to the book “Game Change” was overheard telling Ted Kennedy that Presdient Obama just”a few years ago, this guy would have been getting us coffee” during the Presidential primaries, which everybody’s favorite female politican Hiliary Clinton forced President Obama to denounce Minister Farrakhan on national television.
So, maybe, the former Food Network’s Paula Deen will still get her wedding wish after all.
And even though Princeton Professor Cornell West, who, ironically, is always dressed in a black and white suit, is not a butler, but a server of the people, brilliant said, he hates “President Obama’s compliancy for cowardliness”, which implies that the President has become satisfied with not speaking out against injustice.
Which could be a metaphor for all of us, according to Dr.West?
Because, now,“We are all about our careers and not our calling. We are all about our ambitions, and not our vocations…,” especially, the Black middle class politicians, who have fallen prey to the concept of Black faces in high places, only to see self-destructive behavior destroy many of them. As a result, their base has been bankrupted with bad-decisions made by Jesse Jackson Jr. and Kwame Kilpatrick.
Despite their shortcomings, however, politics is still a dirty game. Plus, anyone who chooses to get involved in it will have to dodge the mudslinging. But, regardless, how swift or smooth they think they are, they still will get some mud on their shirt and some SHIT on their shoes in the process.
Prophetic Political Agenda
With that said, let’s stay true to our ancestors, by never forgetting our history and struggle in this country and throughout the world.
Plus, let us remember, We can’t save America from herself…for her demise has already be written down on the walls of ancient Kemet.
Therefore, I can’t do it. You can’t do it. And President Obama can’t do it either.
Because, all great empires must come to an end. (Read my previous article Babylon is falling!!! on BASN).
Besides, the prophesy must be revealed.
So, in this case, President Thomas Jefferson was correct,“every generation needs a new revolution” Now, let the revolution begin.
Eric D.Graham, a graduate of Winston-Salem State University, where he received a B.A. in Mass Communication with a concentration in Radio and Television and a minor in History, with an emphasis in African-American Studies, is currently the Editor and Chief of Black Athlete Sports Network, where his articles appear daily along with his controversial cartoon character Bobbee Bee “The Hater.” Graham can be reached at lbiass34@yahoo.com
Mental Health is how we think, feel, and act as we face life’s situations. It is how we look at ourselves, our lives, and the people in our lives. It is how we evaluate options and make choices. Like physical health, our mental health is important at every stage of life.
Mental health includes how wehandle stress, relate to others, and make decisions. Mental health can impact the daily life and the future of a young person. For example, schoolwork, relationships, and physical health can be affected by mental health. Caring for and protecting a child’s mental health is a major part of helping that child grow to become the best he or she can be.
Like adults, children and adolescents have mental health problems that interfere with the way they think, feel, and act. These problems are real and painful. They can lead to school failure, family conflicts, drug abuse, violence, or suicide. Mental health problemsoften limit young people’s current and future ability to be productive. In addition, these problems can be very costly to families, communities, and health care system.
Sometimes a young person has a mental health problem that severely disrupts his or her ability to function at home, in school, or in the community. This child or adolescent is said to have a “serious emotional disturbance.” Usually the impaired emotional, behavioral, and mental functioning continues for a year or more. In some cases, the impairment last for a shorter period of time, but its severity is high or life-threatening. Oddly, however, an estimate two-third of all young people with mental health problems will never get the help that they really need.
Most often, children’s and adolescents’ mentalhealth problems are not recognized for what they are—and appropriate help is not sought. The stigma about mental health problems keeps many people from asking for help. Stigma also causes isolation and discrimination for many young people and their families.
Punishment is often incorrectly used to solve these problems within the home, at school, or in the juvenile justice system.
Good information about children’s mentalhealth problems is not available to many people who work with and care for children and adolescents. In addition, culturally competent and child-focused mental health services are not yet available in every community. Sometimes, there is not a good match between the family or problem and the provider or service that is offered.
When a serious emotional disturbance in a child or adolescent goes untreated, it can have grave personal, social, and economic impacts on the child and his or her family. The child may experience major problems interacting with others, fail in school, act out or show violent behavior, or have additional ormore severe mental health problems as an adult. The family may incur high medical bills and the community also pays if the child becomes involved in the juvenile justice system.
Most of all, the child pays if he or she doesn’t get help. Raising public awareness about children’s mental health issues may lead to earlier recognition of possible mental health problems. Identifying these problems when they first appear may help to keep them from getting worse later.
Please read our new series of children's book as we introduce Bobbee Bee "The Hater" as we attempt to help our children deal with some of these mental health issues. Our books can be purchased at www.authorhouse.com, www.bn.com, www.walmart.com, and www.target.com The titles include "In the Mind of Bobee Bee," and"Larry Long Legs featuring Bobbee Bee "The Hater"
This is the second book to be published in the Graham Brother's “BACK TO SCHOOL WITH A NEW ATTITUDE” literary campaign, which is designed to improve the attitude of children in the public school system and at home.
